Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry
Average customer rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • Learn How Not to Let Others Drain You Dry
  • Aware
  • Excellent practical guide to personality disorders
  • pretty good book, a bit harsh on vampires
  • This book was very redundant....
Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry
Albert J. Bernstein
Manufacturer: McGraw-Hill
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ASIN: 0071381678

Book Description

"Bernstein provides a field guide to the various types of Emotional Vampires and advises readers how to protect themselves from being victims of these predatory personalities."­­Boston Globe

From bestselling author Albert J. Bernstein

The author of Dinosaur Brains offers protection from people who seek to destroy the emotional and psychological well-being of others. Like the fabled demons, these vampires:

Emotional Vampires tells readers how to spot a "vampire" in their lives, which defense strategies to employ to prevent one from striking, and what to do if and when they find themselves under attack.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Learn How Not to Let Others Drain You Dry.......2007-09-22

If you have to deal or live with controlling, emotionally draining people, then BUY THIS BOOK. The author identifies 5 personality types who are so draining they can be classified as "emotional vampires." He presents psychological concepts simply, clearly, and with humor, and gives practical advice on dealing with emotional vampires. I read the book from cover-to-cover in about 3 days, and may read it again. It's a very useful tool for learning how to deal with draining people, and is a must-have for those who have to deal with emotional vampires on a regular basis.

4 out of 5 stars Aware.......2007-09-05

This book will give you information on how other people effects your engery field, Emotional Vampires, you will become aware how you fell when you are around other's and how they make you feel "sick"....you know it's time to walk away and don't waste you time with them.

5 out of 5 stars Excellent practical guide to personality disorders.......2007-07-14

I found this book to be funny, enlightening and very helpful in dealing with the vampires in my workplace and personal life. Albert Bernstein took the complex concepts of the psychology of personality disorders and made them understandable even to the layman. I was quite impressed!

5 out of 5 stars pretty good book, a bit harsh on vampires.......2007-07-09

The book is pretty good in terms of telling you how to protect yourself from being drained dry without telling these people to get out of your face. It doesn't tell you how to be nice to these people. Most examples portray corporate environment.

2 out of 5 stars This book was very redundant...........2007-07-05

In each chapter, the author suggests ways of dealing with a certain type of emotional vampire and the advice given each time was basically the same thing.
Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You
Average customer rating: 4 out of 5 stars
  • Some good info, but VERY confusing
  • Very clever analysis
  • Overcoming My Daily Dread, review by Connie Cook Smith
  • A zero rated book - A real disappointment with a Great Title
  • Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try To Control You
Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You
Patricia Evans
Manufacturer: Adams Media Corporation
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ASIN: 158062569X

Customer Reviews:

2 out of 5 stars Some good info, but VERY confusing.......2007-06-25

I had a very difficult time reading this book...my expectations were high, and I've just come to the realization that my ex was a very controlling person. I'm determined to not let this happen again, so the title of the book really appealed to me.

I think the most difficult part of this book is Evan's "labeling" of different types people in the book. I felt by the second chapter that I needed a bookmark to remind me of all of the terms, and who they related to. Is a spellbound person the same as a controller? I'm still overwhelmed by the after-effects of my relationship that my mind had great difficulty with keeping track of the characters. Perhaps it may work when she's speaking to a group, but it a book I don't think it's quite as effective.

I almost put the book down about 50 pages in because it was difficult to read, but I trudged on through because occasionally I would find a pearl of wisdom that made me want another.

I also felt that I was "on a roll" towards page 150 or so, and finally "getting it," then the focus of the book seemed to change to hate crimes and cults and other things that seemed to not fit. I understand that they are related, but the rest of the book seemed to focus on control in relationships...it seemed like they might be two totally separate books. I ended up flipping through until I found more content that related to relationships.

Overall, I did learn some interesting things about controlling people, and did buy another Evans Book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond which is pretty good (I think better). But I see the same issues with labeling that make it a little to follow as well. When I tried to relate the book to a friend and used these terms to explain, she thought I was nuts! (Imagine trying to explain the Teddy Bear thing to a friend)

I also didn't understand Ms. Evans' stories about the people who approached her at the hotel during the conference. It made me feel sorry for the people who were trying to make conversation with her...it seemed to me that she was exhibiting the same insensitivity and control that I've been experiencing for the past few years. I'm not sure of the relevance of these stories to the book...

4 out of 5 stars Very clever analysis.......2007-06-12

This book brought to bear a unique insight into a complicated and subtle process to which we are all subject to in one way or another at different times. It is written in simple straightforward and uncomplicated language. I recommend it strongly.

5 out of 5 stars Overcoming My Daily Dread, review by Connie Cook Smith.......2007-05-08

I haven't quite finished the book, but that's because it brings up so much, so well, that one who comes from the demented world that Evans illuminates must break off and process periodically. Or break off and "go away" for awhile.

To really get my mind around the corrective material, I had to stop about half-way through and go back and review all my underlinings. I have proceeded since then, but on that second look, Evans' clarity about her subject and my own fuzziness from being raised and soaked in a controlling reality, began to penetrate better. Evans often uses the term "backwards" to describe what a controlling person does. When I could see that she was dead-on about the results of that backwards behavior, it more closely fit my own experience of the inside-out and upside-down world I come from -- where the victim is ALWAYS accused of being the perpetrator -- and has life-long believed it!

Perhaps most helpful so far is the assertion that being raised on (or living with) verbal abuse is WORSE than physical abuse. It helped me consciously validate a vague awareness that physical assaults can completely heal in many cases, but a maimed mind is that through which every day is processed and experienced, and therefore a verbal abuse victim's entire reality is quite different from a non-abused person's. I don't know if it's in the book, but I once ran across a quote from a Peter Jennings Special on this subject and captured this statement: "A child from such a background has no chance at a normal life."

For sure. Some of my classmates now are taking early retirement from their satisfying careers, with all benefits and assets to take them forward. I limped through college (despite a very high IQ) but was so convinced "I am a horrible thing" that I had to quit and hide from every serious job. I have no assets, no medical care, my third marriage IS working out (from a lot of work!), but my husband had brain-tumor surgery and is in a long recovery. We live in federal housing, but I do love being with his intact, basically wonderful personality! He always was and always is willing to work things out, and so am I -- so we DO at least have each other -- and we have produced some high quality and highly creative items, even though mostly un-marketed.

The only improvement I would suggest in the book is the replacement of the current term "verbal abuse" with the old terminology from grounds for divorce: Mental Cruelty! The daily torment of being raised by or being with a verbal abuser requires a more graphic description in order to be better legitimized and taken much more seriously -- especially by the victim! Part of the cruelty IS that the victim has been convinced he/she is ALWAYS wrong, about everything, and never has a chance to experience life beyond the perpetual condemnation of being A Horrible Thing. Joy is for OTHER people. Medical care is for OTHER people. Success is for OTHER people -- good things are certainly not for A Horrible Thing like me!

Thanks to Evans' book (and A LOT of other self-work), I may be getting one foot over the line into a world where people experience gratification at being alive -- instead of what's been decade after decade of My Daily Dread. And that is -- despite high intelligence, numerous talents, and an amazing sense of humor -- there always has dominated the brainwashed awareness that I am ACTUALLY A Horrible Thing. There has always been My Daily Dread -- of being me. I think Evans' book is a big step towards healing this.

1 out of 5 stars A zero rated book - A real disappointment with a Great Title.......2007-04-20

For such a serious subject matter, I was surprised and even curious that the author's bio or expertise is regulated to the back of the paperback book in one sentence. The other two sentences are related to media appearance and praise. (Choosing not to Google her, I read the book anyways).

note: the quotes are from the book.

On page 35 and 150 a bookmercial was introduced for another of the author's book instead of discussions on why the subject matter would be a trait or characteristic of a controlling person.

On page 71-74 two separate stories explaining a concept "defining .. were a way of connecting". The stories did not indicated how long a "stranger" had to be in your presence before such a concept could be triggered. If these people were at the same convention that the author attended, how long was the presentation, did she see them at the convention, did she talk to those two people in a question and answer session, or were they just the fans? At what point does the switch get triggered in the stranger's action for them to feel comfortable in crossing the "psychic boundary".

on page 165 I think the author missed an opportunity to share a control type situation outside a "couple or parent relationship". ie "I'm your therapist. You should follow my advice." IMHO Lea was also attracting people into her life who wanted to control her in addition to her relationship with Vic.

Lastly, on page 288-290 you can participate in a survey geared for "Spell bound" issues for the Patricia Evans, Evans Interpersonal Communications Institute. There isn't any background on what the Insitutes does or is even mentioned in the book.

IMHO I would not recommend this book to anyone. I can see why many readers would feel a connection with the book. There are several stories that a person would relate to if they were in a controlling relationship, but I step back and think about how can a person get pointers on when the control activity begins to occur. Do you have to wait several years or
decades to figure out that the relationship has a problem in it. I think there are always warning signals. ie on p 29 when "Ted ... was beside himself."

4 out of 5 stars Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try To Control You.......2007-02-23

Once I started reading this book, I could not stop it was so dead on when it came to the description of Controlling People it made me shake, it reminded me of my husband (who has since moved out). I was not aware of controlling people until my encounter. But this book is just amazing in assisting you to understand what is on the controlling persons mind and why they do what they do. I would highly recommend this book.

How to Persuade People Who Don't Want to be Persuaded: Get What You Want-Every Time!
Average customer rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • Fun and Effective
  • Excellent read
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How to Persuade People Who Don't Want to be Persuaded: Get What You Want-Every Time!
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The art of persuasion as taught by one of the world's most sought-after speakers and pitchmen
In this daring book, Joel Bauer teaches you how to persuade by making your messages entertaining. Learn the secrets behind "The Fright Challenge," "The Transformation Mechanism," and other persuasion tactics used by pitchmen, carneys, and conjurors to convince people to their way of thinking. Along with coauthor Mark Levy, Bauer has taken these ethical, entertainment-based techniques, and has made them practical for everyday use-capable of influencing one person or a thousand, in business and in life.
Joel Bauer (Los Angeles, CA) is an expert in performance-based live marketing who The Wall Street Journal online referred to as "undoubtedly the chairman of the board" of corporate tradeshow rain-making. Mark Levy (Chester, NJ) has written for the New York Times, has authored or coauthored three books, and is the founder of Levy Innovation, a consulting firm that makes individuals and companies memorable.

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The art of persuasion as taught by one of the world's most sought-after speakers and pitchmen
In this daring book, Joel Bauer teaches you how to persuade by making your messages entertaining. Learn the secrets behind "The Fright Challenge," "The Transformation Mechanism," and other persuasion tactics used by pitchmen, carneys, and conjurors to convince people to their way of thinking. Along with coauthor Mark Levy, Bauer has taken these ethical, entertainment-based techniques, and has made them practical for everyday use-capable of influencing one person or a thousand, in business and in life.
Joel Bauer (Los Angeles, CA) is an expert in performance-based live marketing who The Wall Street Journal online referred to as "undoubtedly the chairman of the board" of corporate tradeshow rain-making. Mark Levy (Chester, NJ) has written for the New York Times, has authored or coauthored three books, and is the founder of Levy Innovation, a consulting firm that makes individuals and companies memorable.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Fun and Effective.......2007-09-26

The focus of this book is in using, what I like to call "tangible metaphors" to persuade. The author provides examples where he used magic tricks. However, you may use other skills you posses to bring your point across by "showing" instead of "telling". And sometimes, the only skill required is a little bit of creative imagination, rather than any special dexterity.

Years ago, a friend frequently took me to different parties with him. As soon as we'd get to a party, he'd get out of sight and embark upon seducing other women. I wondered why he took me with him if his intent was to go skirt-chasing, but I didn't want to say anything. Instead, I cut one skirt short and decided to wear it to the next party. It worked like a charm - my friend stayed glued to me the entire time to protect me from other men.

Words have magic in them, but since people intepret words in different ways, and you may not always know what words would have the greatest emotional impact upon another, guiding your listener through an actual experience may prove to be much more effective, and you may have way more fun in the process.

5 out of 5 stars Excellent read.......2007-05-12

A wel presented well written book. Lots of Mmmmmm moments. Some really clever stuff in this book.

5 out of 5 stars You NEED To Read This Book.......2007-04-17

I have had the opportunity of meeting Joel Bauer in person. Let me just say that he is a great person who genuinely cares about people.

He spoke at an event I attended and I am sure that the majority of the people in attendance followed him to the back of the room to buy his kit.
But did he stop there? Oh no, he came back that evening, on his own time, and talked to whoever was interested, until the room had to be closed and believe it or not everyone moved to the hallway of the hotel where Joel continued to speak until almost 2:00 AM. I had never seen anything like this before or since!

This book gives you tips, hints and techniques to become a more persuasive and influential communicator. If you are willing to put some of these "transformational mechanisms" to work, you will see results.

Joel Bauer is the real deal!!

David Mason, Performance Development Coach
Author of Marketing Your Small Business for Big Profits

5 out of 5 stars A Must-Have Persuasion Blueprint for Speakers, Coaches, and Consultants... .......2007-03-07

If you are looking for scientific explanations of emotional and psychological triggers that have been driving all human kind to action since the cave man, skip this book and pick up a copy of Robert Cialdini's "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion."

But if you are looking for real-life tips you can start using immediately to grab and hold attention of your audiences or clients, you will find this book a treasure chest!

Joel Bauer and Mark Levy give practical tips and tools for commanding attention and persuading people who are numbed by millions of marketing messages, bored by their busy lives, and jaded by being over-promised and under-delivered to in the past.

After reading this book I started using several of the entertainment and fun-focused strategies and tactics to command attention of my audiences and drive home hard to explain, complex concepts. It works like a charm!

Adam Urbanski, "The Marketing Mentor"

3 out of 5 stars If Magic Is Your Thing..........2007-02-21

This book was short on useable content and is geared more for the person wanting gimicks and tricks to attract people passing by on a busy trade show floor. I think that some of the tricks he shares do have value in driving your point home but pursuading people who don't want to be persuaded... so, so. I'm glad he made tons of money as a magician/entertainer and just made more on a less than stellar writing venture. I believe this could be used as a platform to begin being creative in you own enviroment.
What No One Ever Tells You About Blogging and Podcasting: Real-Life Advice from 101 People Who Successfully Leverage the Power of the Blogosphere (What No One Ever Tells You About...)
Average customer rating: 4 out of 5 stars
  • Lots of Ideas
  • More of the same
  • A Great Toolbox For The Beginner Blogger
  • Worth a Quick Read
  • A solid effort by Mr. Demopoulos
What No One Ever Tells You About Blogging and Podcasting: Real-Life Advice from 101 People Who Successfully Leverage the Power of the Blogosphere (What No One Ever Tells You About...)
Ted Demopoulos
Manufacturer: Kaplan Business
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Release Date: 2006-11-01

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As all these people become publishers – and even more become blog readers – the nature of the material being produced has moved into the realms of politics, professions and consumerism. For example, “Engadget” is one of the more popular blogs, a daily review of newfangled and exciting gadgets.

Blogs and Blogging in business are relatively new, so new that there simply are no rules. If there were rules, they would be changing and evolving too rapidly to codify. The best anyone can say is “here is some advice based on what is working today, combined with a good dollop of common sense.” As a result, this topic fits the What No One Ever Tells You series format perfectly!

Despite their “newness,” blogs have rapidly proven themselves in business. They serve several functions valiantly, including: communicating with customers, potential customers, and other stakeholders, as a research tool to help uncover what is being said about you, your company, your competitors, and your industry, and even as a type of broadcast medium as some are making significant money by monetizing blog traffic through advertising and other means. Instead of offering our advice on blogs and blogging in business, in this book we offer advice from 101 people who are successfully harnessing the power of blogging.

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Lots of Ideas.......2007-09-06

I've just started my blog on technology investigations called "Hack-igations". I was looking for ideas on how to make the most of my blog, and Demopoulos' book was a big help. It's full of stories about the experiences of other bloggers. The stories give me a sense for blogging culture; they help me fix realistic expectations about what my blog can and cannot do for me.

2 out of 5 stars More of the same .......2007-07-27

Unfortunately, this book is like so many books on blogging and other Web ventures:

1. It promises "insider information."
2. It's a thrown together compendium of the writings of Web marketing "gurus," most of whose only real experience is in marketing their own purported expertise in Web marketing.
3. From reading it, one does glean a few good ideas.

... and like all the others, it will be useful to those who are new to the field. To use an old saying, it's like a Texas longhorn: a point here, a point there, and a lot of bull in between.

4 out of 5 stars A Great Toolbox For The Beginner Blogger.......2007-07-19

A book like this isn't about chewing through pages merely for the purpose of consuming knowledge on social networking. It's for the impassioned evangelist seeking to inspire others to action with nothing more than the seed of thought. The author has taken all these great relationships he's cultivated with winning bloggers around the world and compacted them into tiny, bite-sized chunks of expert advice. Based only on what I read in the book I've developed a blog (..) that within three weeks has attracted about 600 visitors including the attention of more than a few key industry people. And, the book is a great resource to review every once in a while to keep you focused on what works.

3 out of 5 stars Worth a Quick Read.......2007-07-06

This book will take most readers about 101 minutes to read. It is designed in 101 very short chapters of about a page each. In fact each chapter it much like a Blog post. It is a series of interviews with commentary based on the author's discussions with 101 blog writers/experts. I got several ideas from it. It sent me off to the computer to find some of these bloggers. It inspired me to make a post or two. The content on podcasting is a handful of these short chapters. It is well worth a look, but it is not likely something one would read a second time.

5 out of 5 stars A solid effort by Mr. Demopoulos.......2007-05-10

As a person with an interest in blogging and podcasting, this book gave me enough information and anecdotes to keep me entertained and informed.

The book uses individual stories from a diverse set of people in the industry as jumping off points for each given topic area. Grounding each theme in a real person's story provides useful context. The short chapters keep things moving without any unnecessary clutter.

If you are a techno-savvy reader, not everything in the book will be new information, but the author has probed enough nooks and crannies of the topic to unearth more than a few gems.

It's well worth your time if you want to stretch your brain in this area.




Divine Nobodies: Shedding Religion to Find God (and the unlikely people who help you)
Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
  • Reminds us that the world is bigger than our little ecclesiastical corner
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  • Just Finished It and Am Starting It Again
  • Divine Reading On Nobodies
Divine Nobodies: Shedding Religion to Find God (and the unlikely people who help you)
Jim Palmer
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What does a Hip-Hop artist, Waffle House waitress, tire salesman, and disabled girl have to do with discovering spiritual truth? What if embracing authentic Christianity is a journey of unlearning? Welcome to Jim Palmer's world!

Don Miller meets Anne Lamott meets Brian McLaren in this tale of shedding religion and plunging into uncharted depths of knowing God. Jim Palmer, emergent pastor, shares his compelling off-road spiritual journey and the unsuspecting people who became his guides.

"Perhaps God's reason for wanting me," writes Palmer, "is much better than my reason for wanting him. Maybe God's idea of my salvation trumps the version I am too willing to settle for. Seeing I needed a little help to get this, God sent a variety pack of characters to awaken me." For all those hoping there's more to God and Christianity than what they've heard or experienced, each chapter of Divine Nobodies gives the reader permission and freedom to discover it for themselves. Sometimes comical, other times tragic, at times shocking, always honest; Jim Palmer's story offers an inspiring and profound glimpse into life with God beyond institutional church and conventional religion.

"I am tempted to say that Jim Palmer could well be the next Donald Miller, but what they have in common, along with an honest spirituality and extraordinary skill as storytellers, is a unique voice . . . Divine Nobodies is a delight to read, and it was good for my soul to read it."
-BRIAN MCLAREN
Author of The Secret Message of Jesus

"You hold in your hands an amazing story of a broken man finding freedom in all the right places-in God's work in the lives of some extraordinarily ordinary people around him. You will thrill to this delightful blend of gut-wrenching honesty and laugh-out-loud hilarity, and in the end you'll find God much closer, the body of Christ far bigger and your own journey far clearer than you ever dreamed."
-WAYNE JACOBSEN
Author of Authentic Relationships

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Reminds us that the world is bigger than our little ecclesiastical corner.......2007-09-27

It's the people we don't always notice who have taught Jim Palmer the most important lessons in his life. Not the preacher, not the theology professor, not even his church doctrine. In fact, Palmer has spent most of his adult life un learning what he was taught as a seminary student, evangelical preacher, and general I'm-in-church-when-the-doors-are-open kind of guy.

Perhaps because each chapter is devoted to someone you'd least expect, and there isn't any other appropriate place to say it, Palmer gives us two intros to his book. The first is a random list of facts about himself, one of which is that he has Tourette Syndrome.

He was a rising star in the evangelical sky until his marriage dissolved as a result of his wife's adultery. Suddenly there was no place for him in his religious world. "I surmised heaven had me marked too, no longer just a child of God, by now a divorced one." This was the beginning of Palmer's reflections on just what God really feels about people like himself. His pain is tangible: "I shamefully assumed my place in the land of misfit toys on the outskirts of God's kingdom."

It is from this starting block that God begins teaching him lessons from the overlooked people around him - the hip-hop friend who exposes the hypocrisy he's seen in Christian artists, the waffle house waitress who has tried attending church, but has concluded from her treatment there that the church doesn't want her. The friend who is a homosexual, and also a Christian. This acquaintance is alienated by the church and even by Palmer himself. He gets us thinking (without condoning immorality of any sort), even wondering to ourselves, can there be such a thing as a homosexual Christian?

The handicapped little girl in the library gets a whole chapter, because he suddenly realizes that God loves her even though she is "useless" to Him in most people's eyes. Can God love him, even if he can no longer be the celebrated evangelical preacher he once aspired to be? He grapples with what exactly it is about us that God loves, anyway..

The book asks questions. The answers aren't stated, but we get them. Should the church be deciding how we vote? What about the megachurch and the megapreachers? Should Christianity revolve around a church at all? Can a local business be "Christian" without displaying a fish? And what does that look like?

It's uncomfortable to read. It's a poignant and yes, uncomfortable message. Palmer's turbulent childhood and depression are not the stuff cheerful books are made of. He shows us things going on around the world we don't want to think about. But this is God's world, and we are somehow glad he's reminding us that the world is bigger than our little ecclesiastical corner.

Palmer comes to grips with his Catholic roots, and he learns to listen to God and pray in a true and meaningful way. But it's not a way he learns easily. And as important as it is to know what is right and what is wrong, it may end up being even more valuable to learn that "you can be technically right about God without really knowing Him."

--Reviewed by Carol Kurtz for TitleTrakk

5 out of 5 stars religionless Christianity.......2007-08-30

Well, this is the book for you. This is a very interesting book. The author is very self deprecating, funny, insightful, honest, vulnerable. Makes me want to meet the author, share a beer and a prayer with him. It's sad though, because its another reminder of how poorly we are doing as a church of reaching out to our neighbors, or helping people to really understand how to have a relationship with G-d without just a long list of rules. Read it and weep and laugh...

5 out of 5 stars Jim is Jim........2007-08-22

And God is God...and God (as we remember every Christmas) has a way of appearing in the strangest places and wrapped in the oddest bodies. If you can read this book and not think of some "divine nobodies" who have been placed in your path, you are not paying attention! I started making my own list!

I hope Jim chronicles what happens next...I want to know more about this new walk with God.

5 out of 5 stars Just Finished It and Am Starting It Again.......2007-08-15

Shortly before reading this book I was thinking about all the people in my life that have helped me come to whatever stage of spiritually I presently enjoy. This book has been like a breath of life into that thought process, uncovering heroes of my past that I had overlooked. The author's stories are exceptional (much more interesting than my own), but what I have loved the most is learning more about myself and my own process of finding God. For those truly interested in seeing God through the normal, bizarre, frustrating, sections of life this is the book. I really am reading it again right away.

5 out of 5 stars Divine Reading On Nobodies.......2007-07-24

This is one of those books that is read and then continues to work its way through the reader. Palmer walks us through his own journey with God. Along the way, he encounters unexpected friends who shape him in unexpected ways. I think that's what drew me into this book so deeply, the way he grows to not only welcome but to also expect those unexpected twists in his life. We are generally people who avoid the unknown, who explain away the mysterious. But Jim's come to embrace it somehow (you can still read the ongoing journey at his blog), to discover that God is speaking through these twists and turns to bring real and meaningful transformation.

The basic gist of the book is Jim's discovery of "a little help" God is using in "acquiring" the honesty and elasticity needed to grow. Reading the first chapter about his friend Kit, I was sincerely jealous, wanting to retreat to a place (and a friendship) where my questioning mind and searching doubts could find room to roam and play. Continuing on, Jim discovers truth in hip-hop, theological depth at Waffle House, and a servant's heart in a pastoral mechanic. Politics, homosexuality, death - all topics are fair game for God's use in malding and shaping us.

It's as if Jim wrote what I would've wanted to write had I been in his shoes on his journey. We've intersected, if not in the details then in the formulas, and I felt like I was reading an understanding heart being poured out in paperback.
Politics Lost: How American Democracy Was Trivialized By People Who Think You're Stupid
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People on the right are furious. People on the left are livid. And the center isn’t holding. There is only one thing on which almost everyone agrees: there is something very wrong in Washington. The country is being run by pollsters. Few politicians are able to win the voters’ trust. Blame abounds and personal responsibility is nowhere to be found. There is a cynicism in Washington that appalls those in every state, red or blue. The question is: Why? The more urgent question is: What can be done about it?

Few people are more qualified to deal with both questions than Joe Klein.

There are many loud and opinionated voices on the political scene, but no one sees or writes with the clarity that this respected observer brings to the table. He has spent a lifetime enmeshed in politics, studying its nuances, its quirks, and its decline. He is as angry and fed up as the rest of us, so he has decided to do something about it—in these pages, he vents, reconstructs, deconstructs, and reveals how and why our leaders are less interested in leading than they are in the “permanent campaign” that political life has become.

The book opens with a stirring anecdote from the night of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s assassination. Klein re-creates the scene of Robert Kennedy’s appearance in a black neighborhood in Indianapolis, where he gave a gut-wrenching, poetic speech that showed respect for the audience, imparted dignity to all who listened, and quelled a potential riot. Appearing against the wishes of his security team, it was one of the last truly courageous and spontaneous acts by an American politician—and it is no accident that Klein connects courage to spontaneity. From there, Klein begins his analysis—campaign by campaign—of how things went wrong. From the McGovern campaign polling techniques to Roger Ailes’s combative strategy for Nixon; from Reagan’s reinvention of the Republican Party to Lee Atwater’s equally brilliant reinvention of behind-the-scenes strategizing; from Jimmy Carter to George H. W. Bush to Bill Clinton to George W.—as well as inside looks at the losing sides—we see how the Democrats become diffuse and frightened, how the system becomes unbalanced, and how politics becomes less and less about ideology and more and more about how to gain and keep power. By the end of one of the most dismal political runs in history—Kerry’s 2004 campaign for president—we understand how such traits as courage, spontaneity, and leadership have disappeared from our political landscape.

In a fascinating final chapter, the author refuses to give easy answers since the push for easy answers has long been part of the problem. But he does give thoughtful solutions that just may get us out of this mess—especially if any of the 2008 candidates happen to be paying attention.

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5 out of 5 stars American Presidential Politics as Train Wreck, Engineered by Pollsters and Consultants.......2007-08-31


By Joe Klein's reckoning, the greatest scourge of political consultants in the past three decades has been the elimination of Turnip Days - and he may well be right. The peculiar name of this lost element of politics arises from the candicacy of Harry Truman in 1948. At his Democratic Party acceptance speech where he was challenging a do-nothing Republican Congress to reconvene on July 25, President Truman alluded to a Missouri tradition of planting turnips that day, rain or shine. According to Klein, it was a speech straight out of the man, loaded with words and references to Truman's own down-home roots. A genuine, non-scripted, non-manufactured moment in which America saw their President as the man he really was, warts and all. We've hardly had a Turnip Day moment since, and in Klein's view, it's been the ruination of American politics and the cause of horrendous candidacies (Gephardt, Doukakis, Kerry) and equally horrendous Presidencies (Carter, both Bushes, even parts of Reagan and Clinton).

In its basic structure, POLITICS LOST is a history, a chronological retracing of American politics from Jimmy Carter to the 2004 Bush/Kerry election, with particular emphasis on pollsters and political consultants. In Klein's view, this new breed of unelected unknowns have evolved from advisors and strategists to incessant surveyors, focus group holders, and message and candidate micro-managers battling with near-paranoid fervor to suppress anything smacking of reality and spontaneity. As the author retraces successive Presidential election campaigns from Carter/Ford to Bush/Kerry, he introduces us to the little Oz-wizards pulling the strings from behind the curtains. Everything begins with pollster Pat Caddell. After that, it's Richard Wirthlin, John Sears, Bob Teeter, David Doak, Bob Shrum, Mark McKinnon, Dick Morris, James Carville, Ed Rollins, Lee Atwater, Roger Ailes, Joe Trippi, and a host of others. Even to readers for whom those names are already familiar, the stories are simultaneously fascinating and disturbing. Democrats and Repbublicans alike should feel a deep sense of shame over what their leaders have wrought in the last thirty years - hardly "democracy" as the Founding Fathers imagined it.

Klein's negative attitude toward professional political consultancy picks up steam in his writing as he progresses chronologically, and justifiably so. By the turn of the millennium, Presidential political campaigns have become a national disgrace, a black mark on the entire concept of democracy. Candidacies are manufactured for emotion and appearance, devoid of substance and content, and the most telling moments in the last three elections have been gaffes or negative ads and attacks. Not surprisingly, the American electorate increasingly elects not to participate, as if a trip to the voting booth means pointlessly soiling one's hands in the whole nasty business. One of the conjectures in POLITICS LOST is that the entire process increases the likelihood that the country will end up with ineffectual Presidencies. From Carter to Reagan to Bush I to Clinton to Bush II, this certainly seems to be the case (with Clinton being the only pause in this steep slide into the intellectual and effectiveness abyss).

In the book's final pages, Mr. Klein practically begs some future candidate to break this cycle and present himself or herself as just a normal human being. Say what you think and mean what you say; don't hide behind pages of polls and empty, feel-good, focus group-tested slogans. The author may indeed be onto something, judging at least in the Democratic candidates' case by people's continued collective unease with Hillary Clinton and their early surge of enthusiasm for Barack Obama (who appears to be less fresh and more scripted as time passes). As Klein might have it with regard to the so-called political pros, "a pox on all your houses." POLITICS LOST is a fascinating survey of recent Presidential campaign history and a worthwhile read for what it says about our leaders, our political processes, our democracy, and ourselves.

2 out of 5 stars Joe Klein Proves in this BOOK, we need something NEW.......2007-08-25

This book is boring in that there are no SOLUTIONS. Plenty of spotlight on the Problems. Like George W. Bush. The biggest problem in a leader we've ever suffered in our entire history. The man never once has done anything that helps ordinary citizens. He blocked Stem Cell research claiming that he knows for certain that no benefit, no cures would ever come from it. Laura even joined him on that, and she should know better, she has read a book.

So, all of the books on politics right now are very bereft of solutions.

But, there is a website where you can find Real Solutions to our problems. [...]

Here, they are starting the 2nd American Revolution and when you think about it, that's what is really necessary. We need a new revolution because they have such absolute control over the media and the rest of us, it's impossible to get any thing fixed. They have a stranglehold on us. But the folks who started the 1st National Voting Block actually have something NEW and PRACTICAL to offer. Check them out. Tell them Amazon them sent you.

4 out of 5 stars We Are As We Vote?.......2007-04-06

Guess what America, you are "STUPID." How Dare I? Well look at what is going on around us. People in Washington like the fact we do not get the real news, and the "Fat Cat" media owners are rewarded, the government looks the other way, and the media does what it wants. Oh sure you say Janet Jackson's strip tease makes one think otherwise. "Smoke And Mirrors".

How then are we stupid? We continue to elect "Career Politicians" who no longer so much as read the laws they are voting for. Worse big business now taylors laws to suit themselves, or they write them all together. Guess what not a peep out of the American people. And what do we do? Why re-elect them of course.

Campaigns are taylored to what you want to hear and that which tends to garner the most bucks. What a joke. George W. Bush, and his group of "Gangsters" stole two presidential elections, with hardly a peep out of we the citizens, or the sleepy heads on Capital Hill. And the beat goes on. Who knows how many other elections will be fraudulent. Who knows which elected offical will put his hand in the cookie jar, and do the American public in.

Maybe we should get Fidel Castro to send some observers to America, to ensure our next presidential election is honest. "Stupid" seems too mild a word. Politicians do look at us the American public as if we are stupid, because we seem to have lost our voice. Their campaigns are only designed to attack one another, not to address the issues. Such as poverty, homelessness, poor education, lack of health care, and big business trying to make us all jobless. We have a war going on on the other side of the world, where our young men and women are dying. Meanwhile the "Cowboy" in the white House has told every lie under the sun to continue killing our young men, and women in uniform. Guess what, hardly a call for "Impeachment", neither on Capital Hill, or from the people. But a former president lies about his personal life and this becomes grounds for Impeachment. No one lost his life here people.

What we call Democracy is long dead, and this book reveals a few reasons why. The career politician, has to rank as number one. Judges for life is number two. Number two is a very hard one to change because if we allow todays politician to fiddle with our Constitution, who knows they may outlaw your religious beliefs or something. Third and formost how about a voter referendum to limit what the government steals from you each payday. Next get rid of these "Career Politicians". One six year term and they are out. And no these people cannot hold either an elected, or politically appointed position for ten years thereafter. Oops.

This is a good book with all the lies and deception coming from Capital Hill, I wish something of this nature was standard reading in our schools to make people aware of what is happening, and what is at stake. FREEDOM, because we spend too, too much time on computer games, or looking for what Britney Spears is doing, to be troubled about what is really going on in our government. Get involved America.

3 out of 5 stars Worth Checking Out.......2007-03-09

This is an interesting book. Anyone who is interested in an alternative to the right wing talk radio and tv news should seriously consider checking out the Thom Hartmann radio show opposite Rush Limbaugh weekdays at: thomhartmann dot com / showlisten.shtml

Whether democrat, republican, or indepedent, so many of the facts out there are completely ignored by the mainstream media and talk shows. This show is one strong example of an examination of the facts regardless of your political affiliation.

1 out of 5 stars Poorly Thought Out Book.......2007-01-23

Politics Lost is a poorly thought out book. It purports to be a stunning muckraking work, yet it is nothing more than a critigue of the aesthetics of power in Washington.

Critics such as Klein have long seen advertising as being a negative force in politics at least since the Eisenhower campaign hired an advertising agency in 1952. Klein claims that since the Nixon campaign of 1968, politics have become nothing more than slickly packaged advertisements.

Klein's book is really nothing more than the same old, same old.
Keeping the People Who Keep You in Business: 24 Ways to Hang on to Your Most Valuable Talent
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Today's worker shortage is painful enough, but compounded by other employment realities--resignations on short notice, sudden disappearances by new hires, through-the-roof recruitment costs, associated customer and staff disruptions--it's enough to make anyone handling personnel feel as if they're in a war. That's exactly the premise advanced by employee-retention specialist Leigh Branham, whose Keeping the People Who Keep You in Business offers a very workable plan for victory in a workforce battle with no immediate end in sight. It details 24 Retention Practices that Branham developed and organized around the principles of attracting ("be a company that people want to work for"), selecting ("select the right people in the first place"), integrating ("get them off to a great start") and coaching ("coach and reward to sustain commitment"). Each, from "Adopt a 'Give-and-Get-Back' Philosophy" to "Have More Fun," recommends specific programs to help achieve its stated goal, and offers real-life examples of these activities in action at both megacorporations like Charles Schwab and Mirage Resorts and smaller firms including a Charlotte, North Carolina, print shop and a San Francisco architectural firm. "Reducing turnover takes commitment," as Branham says, and this book includes a useful collection of techniques and tools that actually could make it happen. --Howard Rothman

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A war rages in today's workplace, pitting company against company in the fight to find and keep good employees. The losses are high, and battle- weary managers are desperate for talented reinforcements. They've learned that bonuses, stock options, and other financial rewards aren't enough. To win this "war for talent," they need more.

Help has arrived in the form of KEEPING THE PEOPLE WHO KEEP YOU IN BUSINESS. This compelling new book gives readers a battle-plan for victory, offering 24 strategies for retaining valuable people. The strategies are grouped in four basic "keys":

1) Be a company people want to work for 2) Select the right person in the first place 3) Manage the joining-up process 4) Coach to maintain commitment.

These practices will help readers: Make their organization an "employer of choice" * Clearly define the talent needed * Make new employees feel welcomed, valued, prepared, and challenged * Facilitate employees' career growth and advancement, and more.

KEEPING THE PEOPLE WHO KEEP YOU IN BUSINESS is also loaded with specific examples, how-to guidelines, models, and planning aids--proven tools from an expert who knows that money alone won't keep the employees you can't afford to lose.

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5 out of 5 stars Clear, Readable, Valuable.......2006-02-16

Keeping the best employees is a goal that is not often met in today's changing and fluid new economy. Leigh Branham introduces four key strategies designed to help an organization keep the employees it wants. These solid practices are designed to have a positive impact on an organization's best workers by increasing motivation, performance and satisfaction. These four key points are organized in parallel with an employee's life cycle in an organization:

Key #1: Be a company people want to work for.
The leadership of the organization must create an environment where three essential elements are put into place: adopt a "give and get back" philosophy, measure what counts and pay for it, inspire commitment to a clear vision and definite objectives.
Key #2: Select the right person in the first place.
Poor recruiting decisions today result in the poor performers of tomorrow. An organization must claim responsibility for recruiting to ensure it not only chooses the right candidate, but also stays connected to the external business community, and thereby having access to the full diversity of the talent pool.
Key #3: Get them off to a great start.
Knowing that between 50 and 60 percent of employees change jobs within the first seven months, it is seasoned experienced manager and leaders that focus on this critical period to the organization keeps its best employees. The keys elements during this period: communicate how their work is vital to success, get commitment to a performance agreement, and give autonomy and reward initiative.
Key #4: Coach and Reward to maintain commitment.
To sustain an employee's commitment to the organization, his relationship with his manager is a critical element. It is said that 50 percent of satisfaction at work is determined by an employee's relationship with his or her manager. Managers should: proactively manage the performance agreement, recognize results, and give employees tools to take charge of his or her career.

5 out of 5 stars Outstanding!.......2005-10-23

I read the book as part of an MBA mid-term project and would recommend this to any line manager or human resource practitioner who wants real, proven ideas and thoughts about attracting, retaining and developing quality employees. The book is very well structured and easy to read, yet a no-nonsense approach and in depth look at retaining valuable people.

5 out of 5 stars How to Avoid the Prohibitive Cost of Losing Human Capital.......2005-09-08

If at all possible, this book should be read in combination with Branham's subsequently published book, The 7 Hidden Reasons Employees Leave: How to Recognize the Subtle Signs and Act Before It's Too Late, and preferably read first. That is desirable but not imperative. Either book can firmly stand on its own merits and both are "must reading" as competition for talent becomes increasingly more aggressive. That said, the subtitle of this earlier book correctly indicates what it provides: "24 ways to hang on to your most valuable talent." Branham carefully organizes his material within eleven chapters and focuses on four "Keys," providing with each several "retention practices." Too many business books are bloated with theory but wholly impoverished in terms of practicality. For that reason, I commend Branham on the fact that he devotes most of his attention to explaining HOW to establish and then increase the appeal of an organization that people want to work for, how to hire the right people in the first place, how to get new hires off to a great start, and how to use effective coaching and appropriate rewards to sustain their commitment. Well done!

5 out of 5 stars Finally!.......2003-05-09

Finally an employee retention resource from an outstanding consultant that combines practical step by step instructions with theory AND excellent examples from top companies. Keeping outstanding employees should be a top priority for every business, but unfortunately retention often runs a distant second to recruitment. Leigh Branham takes the mystery out of keeping top employees by providing business owners, managers and consultants proven retention tips. After introducing each retention practice, Leigh provides a questionnaire to evaluate your company's effectiveness. Plus the appendix is filled with surveys, checklists and evaluations you can start using today! As a consultant and coach, I am using Leigh's material with companies and individual clients and getting excellent feedback.

5 out of 5 stars Avoid Brain Drain.......2002-09-22

Leigh has written a book that should be on the desk of every business person who wants to create a work environment where people do their best because they are valued as the best.

Although change is part of life, a business always wants to keep the talent that makes for success. This book serves as a clear, concise outline as to how to make this happen. It shares down to earth advice that works in the real work world.

What a great addition this would be to the required reading list for MBA students. Many of the problems that are faced daily in today's business world could be prevented if Leigh's findings were put into practice! I highly recommend this book to both small and large business managers.
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    This unique resource will show you how to find and hire quality help providers - when and where you need them - and how to keep them longer. You will be in control of the quality of help you receive, because you will first control the quality of your help providers.

    Your relationship with family caregivers, agency aides, or personally employed PAs (personal assistants) will maximize respect and trust - and minimize stress. You will find step-by-step strategies for the recurring RISHTMP Cycle of recruiting, interviewing, screening, hiring, training, managing, and parting ways with your paid help providers.

    Planning strategies also advise you and family caregivers how to live in harmony. Your need for assistance is balanced with their need to set limits on the help they can provide.

    Customer Reviews:

    5 out of 5 stars Take Charge!.......2002-05-03

    This book helped me understand that I'm the one in charge. The caregivers work for me and I see now that I need to take more control of the situations. It's a great resource for all aspects of people management.

    5 out of 5 stars Treasure of Facts and Helps.......2002-05-02

    This book is a treasure of facts and helps for any family member, friend, or professional seeking caregiver/personal assistant care for another, or for an individual seeking such care for him/herself. The book is reader friendly and proceeds in logical steps. The information is practical and useable. Compassion for and insight into the feelings of the care receiver are a part of the writing and this is invaluable to all as they move through the process of finding caregiver/personal assistants. The author "thought of everything" and addresses every question one could have because he has been in the situation of finding care for himself and knows what does and does not work. His expertise and information will be a welcome and comprehensive guide to anyone who needs to find, hire and manage caregiver or personal assistant help.

    5 out of 5 stars Caregivers and Personal Assistants.......2002-04-25

    Finally, DeGraff has a new book! He is THE authority on personal care assistance, and I trust his experience, wisdom and advice. We have waited for this new edition for several years, and we find it chocked full of practical how-to's. This is a must for families seeking advice on managing care at home, for students and for health care workers. This book should be required reading for legislators and public policy advocates because this provides practical, up-to-date, relevant information for real-life settings; and it reminds us that legislation must support independent living and home care. With the graying of America, more and more people are going to realize the value of living at home with effectively managed personal care. Agency care often does not work, and it is not aimed at promoting the care recipients' need for independence, respect and wholesomeness. Managing care at home provides sensible and healthy options -- and DeGraff's expertise and advice shows how to go about it. This is learning from the best! Margaret A. Short, Ph.D.

    5 out of 5 stars A "MustBuy" book for those who need help with personal care.......2002-04-24

    As indicated by the title, this book gives you all the information you need to "Find, Hire and Manage the People Who Help You (or your Loved One!). The author speaks from profound personal experience of his more than 30 years of living as a high level quadriplegic. As one who has know Mr. DeGraff since early in that experience, I have followed him as he has gone through rehabilitation, college, graduate school and beyond to where he is today and can readily vouch for his abilities. No detail has been left out of this remarkable publication.

    5 out of 5 stars Great resource for busy people.......2002-04-24

    As a sole adult responsible for my elderly mother, I found DeGraff's book to be my best friend. Prior to getting this book, I felt like a ship at sea without a rudder. Now I have direction, confidence, and clarity when it comes to making decisions for her and for me. It is a resource that offered great ideas and perspective to support her quality of life, at the same time,ensuring my own quality of life.
    So You Thought You Couldn't Draw: For People Who Can't Even Draw a Straight Line (So You Thought You Couldn't Draw)
    Average customer rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars
    • Great Way to Learn
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    • First class workbook - buy it!
    • I CAN DRAW!!!
    So You Thought You Couldn't Draw: For People Who Can't Even Draw a Straight Line (So You Thought You Couldn't Draw)
    Sandra McFall Angelo
    Manufacturer: Discover Art
    ProductGroup: Book
    Binding: Paperback

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    ASIN: 1887823115

    Book Description

    Now in a new, 60-day journal format, this program introduces a super-simple, four-step process that teaches aspiring artists how to develop drawing skills in as little as two months. In a humorous, down-to-earth tone, the innovative system breaks down complex classical concepts and leads novices through basic elements of drawing such as line, shape, value, and texture. Building both confidence and skill as they work their way through the exercises, students learn how to see shapes, lines, and contour, in addition to how to shade, create texture gradation, and draw from photographs. An accompanying DVD demonstrates the presented techniques.

    Customer Reviews:

    5 out of 5 stars Great Way to Learn.......2007-08-07

    Have just been using this book for 10 days and can already see amazing progress and improvement. I have never had an art lesson but always wanted to learn. I an sure that with continued practice I will get where I never dreamed I could.

    5 out of 5 stars Sandi's system works wonders.......2007-03-31

    I am a person who could not draw a straight line. My efforts at art were pathetic. I thought I was hopeless. But Sandi's method has helped me immensely. Anyone who follows the instructions, and does each step, should not fail. It depends on how much time you give it (practice, practice, practice) and how closely you follow the instructions. Even my 12 year old daughter gets amazing results when following Sandi's teaching. You will be amazed how using some simple techniques will turn you into an artist.

    5 out of 5 stars drawing instructions.......2007-02-03

    Her book and method is amazing. She teaches us we all can draw if we really want to, it is only our own inhibitions preventing us from doing what we love. Her methos allows us all to draw fairly realistic even if you are more of an impressionist. Good for young and old. Gives many hours of enjoyment.

    4 out of 5 stars First class workbook - buy it!.......2006-10-01

    If you are looking for a workbook this is one of two that I would highly recommend. I gave this excellent book four stars instead of five because I doubt that a real beginner would miraculously develop professional skills from it alone, despite the claims. BUY IT ANYWAYS. The instructions are basic, but sufficient. I am partway through the exercises, and this book has helped my skills a great deal even in ten or so quick exercises (and I have many more to do!). This workbook will show you how to really draw what you see - truely - and that's about it. You draw right in the book, though I cut the pages out to make the process easier. There are plenty of exercises, so you can develop with practice, instead of "wham! Bam!, Now you are an Artist!". I love the new techniques that I am learning. Definately buy this book for what it is - a workbook that will painlessly teach you some solid drawing skills.

    5 out of 5 stars I CAN DRAW!!!.......2006-09-22

    Don't hesitate on buying Sandra Angelo's books, videos, or tools. Her approach to teaching drawing has opened a whole new world for me. I've nearly completed the "So You Thought You Couldn't Draw" book of drawings using Sandra's step-by-step technique and I'm completely astounded at my progress. As a beginner that could only draw stick figures and two-dimensional cats and dogs, I can now draw flowers, landscapes, and a variety of animals that one can actually recognize. Also, Sandra's videos are a must while working through the book. Using the book and videos together, Sandra clearly describes her techniques, gradually moving the student through a series of exercises that quickly shows results. The tools Sandra recommends and sells are proven and the best quality for a reasonable price. It took the pressure off of me to decide what tools would produce the best drawing. I intend to move onto to Sandra's Exploring Colored Pencils book and videos and then onto mastering the art of faces and the human figure. I'm also very excited about applying my newfound talent to art quilts too.

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