Smart Couples Finish Rich: 9 Steps to Creating a Rich Future for You and Your Partner

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Like many savvy business people of the 21st century, David Bach offered his first pearls of financial wisdom to women, in his bestselling book Smart Women Finish Rich. Recognizing that these women are often accompanied by significant others and that money arguments are the number one cause of divorce in America, Bach has now broadened his scope. Presumably intended to help change this depressing statistic, Smart Couples Finish Rich is a well-written financial planning tool, packed with useful charts and information, inspiring examples, and practical advice.

For people who've been disappointed by the shallowness of some of the "quick tips" self-help books out there, the subtitle of this book is a little misleading. Bach's nine steps are not instant change techniques or chirpy little quips to recite to yourself whenever you go to balance your checkbook. Instead, the first few steps include a series of exercises that will help you determine what you know (and don't know, or understand) about saving and investing, what role money should play in your life (which includes understanding your values), and how to work together toward a common financial goal. From there, Bach teaches his readers how to account for "disappearing" money, how to build retirement, security, and dream baskets of wealth (providing detailed options for all three), and how to avoid the most common financial mistakes most couples make. Though the focus of the book is predominantly on working with your existing income, Bach includes a final chapter entitled "Increase Your Income by 10 Percent in Nine Weeks."

Bach's writing style is engaging and his advice is user-friendly. A successful financial planner, he obviously believes passionately in all the "fringe" benefits of being financially responsible but employs a no-nonsense approach that makes financial smarts available to everyone. So whether you're 25 and just starting out on the earning, saving, and spending road or you plan to retire next year; whether you've recently got hitched for the first time or you've just entered your fourth marriage; and whether financial planning comes first or last on your list of fun things to do, the advice in Smart Couples Finish Rich is worth heeding. It's not about becoming a money-obsessed bore, it's about getting smart... and rich. --S. Ketchum

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From first-time newlyweds to people on their second or third marriage, couples face an overwhelming task when it comes to money management. Nationally renowned financial advisor and bestselling author David Bach knows that it doesn’t have to be this way. In Smart Couples Finish Rich, he provides couples with easy-to-use tools that cover everything from credit card management, to investment advice, to long-term care. You and your partner will learn how to work together as a team to identify your core values and dreams, creating a financial plan that will allow you to achieve security, provide for your family’s future financial needs, and increase your income. Together, you’ll learn why couples that plan their finances together, stay together!

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Fighting about money is the number-one reason for divorce in America. David Bach knows that it does not need to be this way. In Smart Couples Finish Rich, David Bach makes his tips available for everyone trying to navigate the complex joint-finance waters.

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Helpful for all couples planning a future.......2007-09-04

Much of this information can be found elsewhere. I like his idea of dividing savings into the retirement, security, and dream 'baskets'. Many people do not understand that there are different types of savings and that they are all needed to live a happy and healthy life. He even gives advice on the types of investments for each 'basket'. Most of his advice is invaluable and the book is well worth it.

Self Help Finance.......2007-08-25

If found this book very helpfulas a new married couple. It is an easy read without all the financial jargon and is something you can read and actually put into use. Great resource!

Time Waits For No One..............2007-07-12

I originally purchased this book for my son and his wife, but after a month went by and I discovered that it was still laying near the computer where he left it, I picked it up and read it in one day. The information contained is concise, relevant, on-time and indispensable for any couple at any stage of their relationship, hey, as indicated by a scenario by the author, it might even save their relationship. My son and his wife are young, she budgets and is a spend-thrift but he is Houdini with his money, it just diappears: he can never account for his spending and he has not disciplined himself to save. I take the blame for this lack of discipline because I did not always actively encourage him to save his money. The book even addresses this issue, advising parents how to actively involve their children in financial matters. I wholeheartedly agree with David that financial issues should be taught in school. There should be a curriculum designed to address this deficiency in the American educational system. I just wish that I had had this book when I was married. It would have given me a head start, a tremendous guideline, a map, a light in the tunnel to the financial issues that have confronted me over the years. Young couples, married or not married, sit down and read this, it's practical and it is doable and you will not regret it, believe me...time waits for no one.

get control of your finances.........2007-06-27

This is the book which helped me priortize and organize my financial records and life. The information is organized into 3 baskets(retirement, security & dream) based on their priority. It has helped me immensely to
have discipline and control in my financial life. I followed the steps, plan to maximize my retirement contibution this year, now have a security fund, bought life & disability insurance to secure my family and organized my financial records using inventory planner.

Informative.......2007-06-10

I read this book aloud with my husband and we discussed it all along the way. It brings some common-sense ideals together in a well-explained, organized fashion and sells them well. We've all heard "pay yourself first," but this book explains how best to achieve that adage in today's financial environment.

The book is not just about cutting out gourmet coffee-- in fact it doesn't suggest that at all. The author illustrates how people typically fail to prioritize their savings by showing how easily they would spend $3 a day on a latte, but say they cannot afford to put away more money in their 401(k).

The author's idea of "baskets" gives couples a game plan for their retirement, security and recreation. The worksheets provided in the book are helpful by helping couples articulate their dreams and goals both individually and jointly. Couples may also be surprised when they sit down to analyze their current financial picture during one exercise in this book!

If you are ready for advice on a financial game plan, then this is a great book for you and your significant other. (See Bach's other books if the "couple" factor does not apply or appeal to you but you want to understand his philosophies.)

The Practice Of Emotionally Focused Marital Therapy: Creating Connection (Brunner/Mazel Basic Principles Into Practice Series, Vol 11)

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Good EFT book
Great Theory and Practice
Excellent and concise
An excellent guide for practitioners

The Practice Of Emotionally Focused Marital Therapy: Creating Connection (Brunner/Mazel Basic Principles Into Practice Series, Vol 11)
Susan M Johnson
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This work serves as a clear, cogent description of the process of emotionally focused marital therapy (EFT) - which, at the same time, illuminates the promise this technique offers. While most of the literature in this area is based on the idea of intervention being primarily behavioral (with emotion considered as secondary at best, and disruptive at worst) this book identifies the role of emotion in marital distress, and then reveals its potential to play a central role in successful marital therapy. The Practice of Emotionally Focused Marital Therapy includes: A model for short-term, effective marital therapy Relevant theory of adult love and marital stress Change strategies with many clinical examples Nine steps in the process of change, together with key change events Step-by-step guide to intervention at specific points in therapy Specific ways to address a partners emotions to create new interactions and bonding events Applications of techniques with families This important new volume presents EFT as a powerful therapeutic technique for practicing professionals, and also serves as an instructive graduate-level text for courses in marital therapy, psychology, social work, and counselling.

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Good EFT book.......2007-01-10

This book is very good for people who want to learn more about EFT. it is easy to read and has lots of case examples.

Great Theory and Practice.......2006-07-04

This is an excellent presention of EFT for couple therapy. The theoretical underpinnings are presented in a way that does not detract from the aim of the book to help one learn how this work is done. There are lots of clear examples and explanations that give one the feeling they are ready to apply what they have learned in their next session. Written in a clear style free of jargon.

Excellent and concise.......2005-08-12

Good overview of the relationship between attachment and emotional functioning in marriage. The manualized treatment approach has been empirically supported so deserves more than just a glance. An excellent addition to the libraries of anyone interested in and encountering the challenges of couples counseling.

An excellent guide for practitioners.......1998-12-03

Johnson does a beautiful job of laying out the process of effective therapy with couples in a manner that is both clear and respectful of the complexity of the process. Upon reading her book, it suddenly became clear to me why I have been successful with some couples and painfully inadequate with others. It's been a real jump-start to my feeling alive and effective again in therapy. Tom Daniels, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist

Lesbian Couples: A Guide to Creating Healthy Relationships

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Enlightening look at lesbian relationships
A book everyone in a relationship should read, even if you're not a lesbian!
The Lesbian "Bible"
Winner of the WordWeaving Award for Excellence
Good read for lesbian couples

Lesbian Couples: A Guide to Creating Healthy Relationships
D.Merilee Clunis , and G. Dorsey Green
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Surely there are couples who don't need books like this: blessed as they are with flawless unions, enduring passion, and equitable chore distributions, with never a sharp word, a demanding ex-lover, or a roving eye. The rest of us can consult Clunis and Green every 45 minutes. With sections on building intimacy, making decisions, communicating, and addressing issues of race and age difference, among other topics, Lesbian Couples at least touches on most of the conflicts that a lesbian couple will face (a list of resources at the back will help readers pursue specific interests). The chapter on conflict resolution is exceptional, but the chapter on sex seems brief and perfunctory by comparison, perhaps because it has been written about so extensively elsewhere. This major revision of a lesbian self-help classic may be illuminating not only for couples but also for single women hoping to build the qualities needed for successful relationships, especially in the wake of a break-up. --Regina Marler

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Written by two experienced lesbian therapists, Lesbian Couples covers a range of topics—commitment ceremonies and marriage, living arrangements, work, money, togetherness and separate identities, coming out to family and friends, resolving conflict and understanding each other—and uses a variety of helpful examples and problem-solving techniques, drawing from research done on lesbian couples over the past decade. The book pays special attention to differences of race, class, age and physical ability, and addresses the issues raised when one or both partners are recovering from alcohol, substance, or sexual abuse. The book also addresses differences that lesbians may encounter in their relationships regarding such issues as butch-femme, transgender identity, bisexuality, monogamy and sado-masochism. Thoroughly readable and extremely helpful, with an updated resource guide, Lesbian Couples is a book that every lesbian will want to own.

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Enlightening look at lesbian relationships.......2007-05-21

This book helps seperate the similiarities and differences between lesbian and straight couples. It helps dispel some of the myths and assumptions and helps you look at your own relationship with a new understanding. Fabulous!

A book everyone in a relationship should read, even if you're not a lesbian!.......2006-07-30

This book's advice has been so wonderful and has definitely helped enrich mine and my partner's relationship. I have even suggested this to some of my strait friends and they have benefitted from it's advice as well. The only advice I disagree on is the whole non-monogamy thing that they offer in part of the book as an option, but that's a personal preferance of mine and I am sure to those who prefer open/multi relationships will find it helpful.

This is a definite MUST READ!

The Lesbian "Bible".......2004-05-10

And that's really what this book is--a necessary part of any healthy lesbian relationship. Get it, read it with your partner, try to incorporate its tips into your life, and you will see the difference in your relationship. It covers every aspect of the lesbian relationship from both a personal and a theraputic aspect.

Winner of the WordWeaving Award for Excellence.......2003-05-28

Women have been socialized to form couples, and, within the lesbian experience strive, for the joy and exhilaration of loving other women. Yet achieving and sustaining intimacy remains a challenge, just as it does with other types of couples. LESBIAN COUPLES targets the natural flow of intimate relationships. From mind reading and making assumptions, to conflict and disillusionment, LESBIAN COUPLES examines the strengths and weaknesses of relationships, flagging potential problem areas and offering real life examples and solutions to the challenges lesbians experience.

Practical chapters include: understanding differences, managing conflict, sex, making decisions, family, children, cross-cultural and cross-race relationships, recovery and healing, disability and chronic illness, and later life. Whether you are beginning a relationship, maintaining a relationship, ending a relationship, or recovering from a relationship, this book offers something for everyone. As a matter of fact, heterosexual couples and gay couples will likewise find a considerable amount of useful information related in an open, nonjudgmental, insightful style.

Dr. D. Merilee Clusis and Dr. G. Dorsey Green bring their own therapuetic and personal experience to the remarkable text, LESBIAN COUPLES. With sensitivity to race, class, physical and mental ability as well as geographical location interacts with chronological age, LESBIAN COUPLES addresses the challenges faced by lesbians seeking to establish committed relationships. While acknowledging the increased acceptance levels exhibited by society, LESBIAN COUPLES takes a long hard look at homophobia, racism and sexism as it affects individual lesbians and couples. While always exhibiting a profound respect for the individuals that create couples, LESBIAN COUPLES encourages self-exploration and self-honesty as individuals attempt to develop healthy and happy relationships. I spent about a month working my way through the book, journaling, and learning to implement many of the skills in the book, and feel that it has transformed my life. A book that must be added to every lesbian's keeper shelf, LESBIAN COUPLES earns the WordWeaving Award for Excellence.

Grace Weaver

Good read for lesbian couples.......2001-01-31

This book is very helpful, easy to read, and is up to date on its research and theory. I like the way they draw from other material and make it applicable to lesbians. Both my partner and I are reading this book. We are at Chapter 3 and we are very impressed by the content and drawn to keep reading on.

When Couples Pray Together: Creating Intimacy and Spiritual Wholeness

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FROM AN ORDINARY TO A TRIUMPHANT MARRIAGE

When Couples Pray Together: Creating Intimacy and Spiritual Wholeness
Jan Stoop , and David A. Stoop
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Christian couples know their lives would be richer if they prayed together every day, but most find it so challenging to achieve daily personal prayer times that they never even try to pray more than table grace together. The Stoops want husbands and wives to pray together, and they have written a book full of practical advice, sympathetic encouragement and true-to-life results in the lives of real couples.

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FROM AN ORDINARY TO A TRIUMPHANT MARRIAGE.......2000-02-28

If you looking to improve your lackluster, ordinary marriage and transform it into a TRIUMPHANT one then David and Jan Stoop's book "When Couples Pray Together" creating intimacy and spiritual wholeness is just what the doctor ordered! In a step by step chapter by chapter easy read method the Stoops, through personal experience and real life couple examples, share just what prayer can do to make a mediocre marriage stronger and a vibrant one TRIUMPHANT. In plain every day language David and Jan share that prayer is a committment that is sometimes hard to achieve in this fast paced go-go society we live in. But for those who have taken the six week "step off the curb" challenge to pray together they have found resounding success in the 10 areas of intimacy: emotional, intellectual, social, recreational, creative, crisis, work, conflict, physical, and spiritual. This is a must read for all couples who are looking for more out of their marriages and greater closeness to their God given partner. You will not be disappointed!

To the Happy Couple: Creating a Great Wedding Toast with Style

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To the Happy Couple: Creating a Great Wedding Toast with Style

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Now here's something worth raising a glass to: the perfect how-to guide and resource for preparing, writing, and presenting the best wedding toast ever (butterflies not included). With clear explanations of who traditionally offers a toast and when, To the Happy Couple also gives useful information on fitting toasts for rehearsal dinners, bridal showers, and bachelor parties. Tips include avoiding the pitfalls of public speaking and advice on which topics work well and which should be avoided (don't bring up that first marriage...). There are plenty of suggestions for finding quotes, whether from song lyrics, poems, or other sources, examples of how to use them to enhance and personalize the message, plus a variety of quotes in the back of the book to provide additional inspiration. Beautifully illustrated throughout with whimsical drawings, To the Happy Couple is both a practical guide and a lovely gift for anyone who has ever had to say, "I'd like to make a toast..."

Satir Step by Step: A Guide to Creating Change in Families

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Virginia Satir

Satir Step by Step: A Guide to Creating Change in Families
Virginia Satir , and Michele Baldwin
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Virginia Satir.......2007-01-12

The author does an excellent job showing how to build rapport and trust.
Clear, concise dialogue and easy to follow.
A wonderful addition to the Family Therapy class I am about to attend.

The Couple's Hypnotic Dance: Creating Ericksonian Strategies in Marital Therapy

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The Couple's Hypnotic Dance: Creating Ericksonian Strategies in Marital Therapy
Carol J. Kershaw
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Essays on Creating Sacred Relationships: The Next Step to a New Paradigm

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A great learning tool!

Essays on Creating Sacred Relationships: The Next Step to a New Paradigm
Sondra Ray
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A great learning tool!.......2000-04-05

I really want to Thank Sondra for all the information she provided in this book, it helped me look at some of my own behavior pattens and in turn the realationships I have created. I feel I will be able to create stronger relationships with family and friends now.

The Power of a Partner: Creating and Maintaining Healthy Gay and Lesbian Relationships

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Relevant and powerful
A Powerful Book !
Powerful!!

The Power of a Partner: Creating and Maintaining Healthy Gay and Lesbian Relationships
Richard L., Ph.D. Pimental-Habib
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Dr. Richard L. Pimental-Habib's new book is filled with thought-provoking guidance and soul-searching wisdom. Having previously addressed issues of self-esteem and emotional well-being in the gay and lesbian community in Empowering the Tribe, Dr. Pimental-Habib now provides gay men and lesbians with a blueprint for forming and cultivating meaningful and long-lasting relationships of all varieties.

"Relationships provide the fabric and richness of our lives. They act as organic mirrors reflecting the qualities of who we are to others. They show us our hopes, fears, hurts, and joys."

Using real-life relationships as examples, The Power of a Partner illustrates the importance and value of healthy relationships with family, friends, and lovers. The book's in-depth exploration of various relationships focuses on:

Love, lust, and healthy commitments:
Why we choose who we choose
Working through the grief of a breakup:
Successful strategies of long-term relationships
Tips for healthy open relationships:
Coping with the ex
Nurturing all your friendships:
Dealing with family relationships
Improving the quality of your love relationships:
Learning to love yourself as a foundation for loving others

Whether you want to learn how to relate better to siblings or coworkers, sex-partners or friends, Dr. Pimental-Habib's warm and enlightening approach will help you secure the greatest emotional, physical, and spiritual satisfaction possible.

Dr. Richard L. Pimental-Habib is a psychotherapist in private practice in Fresno, California. A member of the American Psychological Association, the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, the American Board of Hypnotherapy, and the American Academy of Hypno-analysts, he is the author of Empowering the Tribe, and his articles have appeared in L.A. Parent, Bereavement, and Let's Talk!

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Relevant and powerful.......2003-01-03

This book takes you places you have always feared and sets you free. It is never too late to explore and expand your world of relationships as this book empowers us to think and act with new insights. The meditations are expecially enlightening and can be used time and time again. Waiting for the next book .

A Powerful Book !.......2002-12-09

Dr. Rick has written an insightful, soul-searching blueprint to help all couples -- gay and straight -- partake of an honest journey toward forming healthy bonds of all kinds. He offers guidance for creating healthy relationships with lovers, friends, family, co-workers, and perhaps most importantly, with oneself. This unique book includes common-sense advice, humor, meditations, and lots of examples of how other gay couples make their way through the myriad of relationship joys and struggles. I highly recommend Dr. Rick's style of relationship counseling !

Powerful!!.......2002-11-15

I've read a few books on dating and building and maintaining relationships and this one truly stands out! Not only does it cover building gay and lesbian partnerships, but also having healthy relationships with friends, family, coworkers, and yourself! There's no snippy banter or feckless chitchat, just honest, useful, valuable information based on the author's 15-plus years experience as a counselor and therapist. This book is packed with practical, thought-provoking information that guides you on a journey in a warm, sincere, gentle style.

Breathing Room: Creating Space to Be a Couple

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A must read
For me, this book was, quite simply, revolutionary
The authority for interpreting your partner's need for space
Excellent couples book!!
A ground breaking book!

Breathing Room: Creating Space to Be a Couple
Elayne Savage
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Intimacy is a balancing act that leaves most people teetering between their need for closeness and their need for autonomy. Couples often fall into treacherous patterns of hurt feelings and misunderstandings as one partner pushes for more intimacy and the other pulls away. In Breathing Room, psychtherapist Elayne Savage shows readers how to recognize what the space struggles in their relationships are really about. Thought-provoking exercises and examples from her her friends, practice and workshop participants help couples get past old resentments and negotiate a shared space that satisfies each person's expectations and needs.

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A must read.......2007-10-01

I checked this book out at the library because my boyfriend and I were having some conflicts related to "space." Bottom line I loved it so much and found it so helpful that I bought one for the both of us to have and mark up the areas that we found important. The book really cleared up what intimacy is, as well as what it isn't and the positive ways we can create it in our relationships. I found this book to be especially helpful at guiding me to an understanding of my anxieties surrounding "space" in a relationship. I did check out many other books along with this one, but this and "Getting the Love You Want" were by far the most helpful.

For me, this book was, quite simply, revolutionary.......2007-01-15

I just received this book from an Amazon seller yesterday, and finished it this morning. Since I was confounded by some of my relationships with regards to closeness/distance, and often found myself being "flooded" by
too much analysis of certain relationships that seem to deteriorate into conflict, hurt,misunderstandings and
ambivalence, this book gently eased my soul. It explains how and why get into these stalemate predicaments in some of our relationships - whether we're the "pursuer" or the "distancer" (or both), and does so in a non-judgemental way that doesn't pathologize what is common, to some degree, in experience of being human. There are also invitations to take risks to make things different and she tells us how. Throughout the book, Elayne Savage opened doors for me to understanding healthier intimacy that is respectful of differences. That she writes well and uses humor is a major plus. It is a delightful, reassuring read. I highly recommend this book.

The authority for interpreting your partner's need for space.......2003-04-01

My now-fiancé and I have been trying to understand each other's respective need for space / intimacy for over a year now. This book is the Rosetta Stone and serves as a translator for those who confuse the need for space with rejection. This wonderful book has helped me not just understand her point of view, but my own as well, as if from a third-party perspective. That has been the real key in helping our previously-floundering and questioning relationship achieve a new level of intimacy and understanding.

Excellent couples book!!.......2001-04-22

I am the webowner of Mental Health Today. This book discusses the all important and often misunderstood art of being intimate without being stifling. Great Affirmations along with couples discussion topics and exercises. Great primer on setting boundaries both inside and outside your relationship. Also discuss your behaviors when your boundaries have been crossed. I would consider this a wonderful book for the couple searching for intimacy, without feeling overwhelmed.

A ground breaking book!.......2001-01-23

Breathing Room is a "must buy" for anyone that is currently in or wants to be in a relationship. Dr. Savage takes the notion of space to new heights. The reader comes away with a better understanding of space, self, and the insight to give his/her relationship room to grow. Breathing Room is an informative book that is written in a way that is easy to understand. This is a deep and thought provoking book. I highly recommend it!

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