I'm Not in the Mood: What Every Woman Should Know About Improving Her Libido
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I'm Not in the Mood: What Every Woman Should Know About Improving Her Libido
Judith Reichman
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"Libido maintenance is complicated," admits Judith Reichman, M.D., the frank "hormone maven" you've seen on PBS, The Today Show, and Oprah!. Few physicians are able to help or are comfortable helping women whose dwindling sexual urge interferes with sexual pleasure, intimacy, and expression of affection. I'm Not in the Mood examines the medical reasons for the loss of libido as women age. Reichman concludes that although estrogen replacement makes sexual activity more comfortable and pleasurable, it has no effect on sexual desire, whereas testosterone does. "From an ovarian point of view, many of us are testosterone-deprived, if not downright deficient," asserts Reichman. Testosterone deficiency can result in diminished desire and arousability, insensitivity of the clitoris and nipples, and difficulty reaching orgasm. She discusses the "good news" about and "dark side" of taking testosterone.

Reichman wisely avoids blaming testosterone deficiency for every sexual woe, however. She describes "Seven Sexual Saboteurs": psychological concerns, couple trouble, medications, disease, surgery, pain, and a partner with erectile difficulties. For each, she explains the problem and her recommended solution. She discusses (and, generally, dismisses) other products that are used or advertised as libido enhancers and gives advice about how to talk to your partner and to a sex therapist. --Joan Price

Book Description

The "hormone of desire," testosterone, acts on the brain to stimulate sexual interest, sensitivity to sexual stimulation, and orgasmic ability in both sexes. The amount of testosterone circulating in a woman's blood declines by about 50 percent between her twenties and fifties. The most common complaint associated with this decline is a seemingly unexplainable decrease or loss of sexual desire and enjoyment.

In I'm Not in the Mood, Dr. Reichman reveals the effectiveness of small doses of testosterone in reviving sexual desire and pleasure for women. Questions answered and topics discussed include:

The "hormone of desire," testosterone, acts on the brain to stimulate sexual interest, sensitivity to sexual stimulation, and orgasmic ability in both sexes. The amount of testosterone circulating in a woman's blood declines by about 50 percent between her twenties and fifties. The most common complaint associated with this decline is a seemingly unexplainable decrease or loss of sexual desire and enjoyment.

In I'm Not in the Mood, Dr. Reichman reveals the effectiveness of small doses of testosterone in reviving sexual desire and pleasure for women. Questions answered and topics discussed include:

Customer Reviews:

3 out of 5 stars Menopausal? This one's for you!.......2007-01-19

This book really focuses on organic desire problems, mainly loss of libido due to hormone fluctations. It really pushes the use of testosterone to increase libido, and other remedies and procedures that are largely geared towards much older women (usually through menopause). THIS IS NOT A HELPFUL BOOK FOR WOMEN UNDER 40.

4 out of 5 stars Looking for Answers?.......2006-05-12

A straight-forward explanation of causes for loss of sexual desire in women. It offers psychological (body image, depression, stress, relationship issues), physical, and drug/medical reasons. For these it suggests the best treatment depending on the cause, plus has a section on how to talk with your partner about the problem.
Useful to know the likely causes and gives a starting point for changing things.

5 out of 5 stars Man as the cause of a woman's decreased libido?.......2005-03-11

There's a surprise category in this book. But, first, what's best about the book.

I recommend the book to most of my female patients because it gives an excellent description of all of the causes of a woman's decreased libido. Reading this book gives a good framework for talking with the physician and for taking responsibility for improved health.

Perhaps she underestimates the power of testosterone. No matter what else goes on, if that hormone is low, a woman will struggle with her libido. If you're considering changing the way you replace your horomones and want more details about the personal experiences of someone before and after proper hormone replacement, read Suzane Summer's latest book.

The surprise category is this: Men can be the cause of a woman's decreased libido. The way Dr. Reichman explains it: if the man has ejaculation and quits before the woman is satisfied, then the woman experiences frustration and loses desire for sex. Replacing the hormones of a few thousand women has taught me that this problem is much more common than most men know (the woman does love her husband and so doesn't want to tell him). Dr. Reichman tries to address this problem by writing a few pages about impotence in males.

Here's the problem, most men will not seek treatment from a physician (only about 30% of men with erectile dysfunction...impotence or premature ejaculation...will see a physician). So, I often find Dr. Reichman's category to be a real one: men do contribute to the decreased libido of a woman when they don't understand how to provide prolonged love making for the woman who needs it to achieve orgasm.

Dr. Reichman doesn't expand on the problem of men as the cause of decreased libido, but another common problem in my practice is that the woman comes to see me with decreased libido, then after I treat her the husband can't keep up with her. So, she goes from decreased libido, to improved libido, to frustration and decreased libido again. Because my women patients usually can't convince their husbands to come see me, I wrote a 15-day course for men: Anytime...for as Long as You Want: Strength, Genius, Libido, and Erection by Integrative Sex Transmutation.

Now, I ask my women patients to read Dr. Reichman's book. Then when the woman improves her libido (with the book and my hormone therapy), I give the woman the book Anytime...for as Long as You Want (which comes with an audio CD) to help her convince her husband to seek help in keeping up with her new libido.

Read both of these books and don't give up. Just a few months ago, I had a 65-year-old patient brag to me that she had her first orgasm just a few weeks after starting therapy as descirbed in this book. Her husband of many years only smiled.

--Charles Runels, MD
Author of "Anytime for as Long as You Want: Strength, Genius, Libido, & Erection by Integrative Sex Transmutation (A 15-Day Course for Men to Improve Sex and Life)"

2 out of 5 stars Not for the 20-something female.......2004-12-31

As a 28 year old mom with a 14 month old son and mild depression, I thought I'd buy this book. However, when I read the book, it told me nothing I didn't already know. I wish she could have written a chapter that reaches women in their 20s having these issues. I literally ear-marked 3 pages, which were the only three pages out of the whole book that applied to me. Moreso for women in their 30s-60s.

5 out of 5 stars A good start for client and clinician discussion.......2002-07-10

I have used this book in my clinical practice as a Women's Health Nurse Practitioner for the past couple of years to treat Female Diminished Libido. I loan my copy out to my patients who don't want to purchase this book and have had tremendous success with my patients. I have my client read the book over a couple of weeks while waiting for lab results to come back and then we discuss her lab results and what she discovered in the book. The book has had the beneficial effect that most of my patients are able to honestly reveal if there is marital discord that may not have been admitted to in the first appointment. Opening up the way for a sex therapist or marriage counselor has been another positive benefit of this book. I find that many of my patients were reluctant to consider counseling in the first appointment, but were willing to include counseling as part of the treatment plan of their decreased libido. So many women learn about the female body and functions for the first time while reading this book. Every patient has been very happy with this book and no longer felt alone with this problem. They were able to realize that other women have suffered with this same problem and that, most of the time, there is positive results with hormones, exercise, honest communication with their spouse, counseling and/or treatment for depression. I plan to continue to use this book in my treatment of Diminished Female Libido.
Her Mother's Daughter: A Memoir of the Mother I Never Knew and of My Daughter, Courtney Love
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Her Mother's Daughter: A Memoir of the Mother I Never Knew and of My Daughter, Courtney Love
Linda Carroll
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The daughter of esteemed writer Paula Fox and the mother of Courtney Love relates “the curse of the first-born daughter” that has haunted four generations of her family.

As an adopted child, Linda Carroll created a magical world of her own, made up of dramatic adventures and the abiding fantasy that her real mother would come and take her away. When she finds herself pregnant at the age of eighteen, she is determined to have the perfect understanding with her child that she lacked with her adoptive mother. But readers will know better, for that baby grows up to be Courtney Love, desperately attention-seeking, deeply troubled, and one of the most talented women in rock.

Even as a baby, Courtney is beset by mood swings that no doctor can explain or cure. Her dark moods and paranoia escalate as she grows up, driving mother and daughter apart. When Courtney has a daughter of her own, Linda finally decides to find her own biological mother, and end the estrangement of generations of first-born daughters.

Her Mother’s Daughter is Linda Carroll’s story of self-discovery as an adopted daughter, a childlike hippie mother and a woman determined to find herself before finding her roots. Set apart from the typical celebrity memoir by Carroll’s gifted storytelling, Her Mother’s Daughter gives a fresh perspective on the elusive yet enduring connections between mothers and daughters, and reveals the true history of the wildly confabulatory Courtney Love.

LINDA CARROLL was adopted at birth, raised in San Francisco and only later discovered that her biological mother is the writer Paula Fox. Married at eighteen, and twice more before she was thirty, she is now the mother of five grown children, including singer/songwriter Courtney Love. She is a therapist and writer and lives in Corvallis, Oregon with her husband of seventeen years.

Advance Praise for Her Mother’s Daughter

“Even if you start reading Linda Carroll's memoir out of curiosity about her famous daughter and biological mother, you'll keep reading to find out more about Linda herself.  This is no celebrity potboiler, but a fascinating, beautifully written work of narrative nonfiction; Carroll unites the intimate perspective of a psychologist, the contextual sense of a historian, and the clarity of a fine biographer in one absorbing package.  One of her central themes is what she calls the "curse of the first-born daughter," and it does seem that a tendency to live fascinating but difficult lives runs in these women's veins.  But so, apparently, does the talent of drawing, holding, and rewarding our attention.  Bravo, Linda Carroll!”
 
—Martha Beck, author of Expecting Adam and Finding Your Own North Star
 

“There is a delicious fictional quality to this true-life story that I  found riveting. In Carroll's deft telling, the book is a kind of  resurrection of a family….  I think I loved Her Mother's Daughter most for the devotion that Linda Carroll has for her unusual family through decades of separations and unconventional journeys.”
 
--Terry Ryan, author of  The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio

 
“Looking backward and forward in time, this haunting memoir tells the story of a young woman’s journey to finding herself, her birth mother, and her daughter, Courtney Love. The candor and power of these pages illuminates the difficulties of all mother-daughter relationships, but offers a rare glimpse into that elemental relationship when it is shadowed by the temperamental features of early-onset bipolar disorder. Linda Carroll has grit and grace, and writes like her mother’s daughter.”
 
—Demitri F. Papolos, M.D. and Janice Papolos, authors of The Bipolar Child

Customer Reviews:

5 out of 5 stars Best book club selection .......2007-04-25

My books club cloose "Her Mother's Daughter" for our April meeting and we were so into Linda Carroll's story that we had to meet the following week to finish our discussion. Mothers and daughters, relationships with men, finding yourself, finding what spiritual means, friendships, mental illness, death, birth, accepting life's bumps with grace laughter and compassion and going back after 30 years to find your first love, forgiveness, and lots of Catholic craziness of the 50's...this book has it all. Her descriptions of San Francisco are astounding and meaningful, ( I have lived here for 15 years)..I could imagine perfectly sitting at The Green Valley Resturant or Alioto's market at Fishermens Wharf. So is the way she describes having attention deficit disorder,"Fidget and Squirm were like an angry couple that lived in my body. Their constant warring made it impossible for me to sit still." I look at my students who struggle the same problem through new eyes. Its a fantastic book, colorful, intimate, honest, and thoughtful.

5 out of 5 stars Excellent read!.......2007-04-20

I loved this book, I devoured it in a weekend. It was interesting to learn more about Courtney Love that explained why she acts so insane at times. But I really fell in love with her mom's story. I could completely identify with the victimizing kind of family life she grew up in. She is painfully honest and very insightful.

5 out of 5 stars This is a great book........2007-03-15

This book is a really great. I can't put it down. It aslo was delivered pretty quickly and was cheap.

5 out of 5 stars When is the movie coming out?.......2007-01-18

I just read about this book in a rave review in an old Entertainment book, I agree with the other readers who say she describes the decades with just the right emphasis. What a great movie this would be; the themes are universal.Attitudes about religion, relationships, child-raising sex, drugs and rock and roll and how they changed through time and the core of the book which is one woman's finding her roots within herself. I have been expecting it to appear on TV or as a film, it would be a blockbuster.
As a Catholic (I'm a decade younger and had it a little easier than she did) I felt her determination to find spirituality in her life heroic, (in spite of her religion) and it seems she really did get there. I too loved the last chapter. I am sure she could have done a lot more with her relationship with Paula Fox, but can understand why she didn't. All in all, a really grand story, well written, intimate and real.Hope to see it on a movie screen.

4 out of 5 stars Enjoyable and Insightful, a Page-Turner.......2007-01-17

I purchased this book because of its generational mother-to-daughter topic, knowing that with Linda Carroll being both a psychologist and an adoptee, she would add dual perceptions. Her book is clearly insightful, especially in Carroll's ways of dealing with the feelings of the adopted child (and somewhat less so of the adoptive parents' feelings), and she truly reveals some of the harmful "denial" aspects of adoption of the 1940s and 1950s, with its "don't ask, don't tell" philosophy--that somewhat veiled and secretive view of the adoption process all around: the biological parents, the adoptive parents, and the adopted child all becoming unknowing victims of that process. At that time, to be enlightened was to "forget about the past." Linda Caroll makes it clear that one can never be quite whole without all of those pieces to put into their places.

Where Carroll is lacking slightly is in her depth of understanding of her adoptive parents' feelings and her own troubled daughter's, although she tries honestly and valiantly to do. Some parts still seem to be missing, and the reader comes away, mostly towards the end, sensing that some parts are just not there.

Nevertheless, it is a well written book, and one that I couldn't put down. It also offers some insight into the 1960s and early 1970s in terms of our views of what works in a family, and what we know now, just doesn't.


I Cherish You: Words of Wisdom from His Needs, Her Needs
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    I Cherish You: Words of Wisdom from His Needs, Her Needs
    Willard F.Jr. Harley
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      I Love Her, But . . .
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      Now the rebuttal. First the wives got together, started talking about their husbands, compared notes and war stories, and got a big kick out of sharing them with Merry Bloch Jones, who published her findings last season in I Love Him, But... Well, now it's the husbands' turn. And if any wife complained that her husband never paid attention, she was wrong. The companion volume to I Love Him, But..., with over 100,000 copies in print, I Love Her, But... is a funny, revealing take on what it really means to be happily married--from the man's point of view: "She never tells me that she wants to make love. She lowers her chin, stares at me and blinks. And keeps on blinking."--Len, Tampa, FL. "She does whatever the kids do. Rollerblade, skateboard, bodysurf. . . . I hope this stops when they start dating."--Nelson, San Francisco, CA. "My wife doesn't function well without a lot of accessories."--John, New York, NY. "All she has to do is look at me and I know what she's thinking. She doesn't have to say a word, but I know she's nagging me, and I know what about. Nobody's uttered a syllable, but we're off. Now I understand what my father meant when he used to tell my mother, 'Don't look at me in that tone of voice.'"--Frank, Malvern, PA. "She turns to me and, in all seriousness, asks, 'What was I just going to say?'"--Leon, Washington, DC

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      You Have to Say I'm Pretty, You're My Mother: How to Help Your Daughter Learn to Love Her Body and Herself
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      You Have to Say I'm Pretty, You're My Mother: How to Help Your Daughter Learn to Love Her Body and Herself
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      A therapist and a mom have written a wise book for mothers of teenage girls who spend half of their time in front on a mirror and the other half fighting with them about what they see. The authors' fresh approach urges moms to "think of fat as an emotion." A daughter's belly shirts, body critiques, and food quirks are the vocabulary to talk about what is really bothering her: she's aware of who she isn't (razor thin and model perfect), but hasn't figured out who she is. Stephanie Pierson and Phyllis Cohen's techniques for teaching body comfort are subtle and highly practical. For example, how to give your daughter a compliment, help her understand sexuality, distinguish between taking her body apart and knowing what looks best on her, and, on the lighter side, what to say if you never want her to talk to you again. The beauty of their approach is a two-way mirror, they also ask mothers to explore their own feelings about beauty and body. The book's depth, humor, and guidance will attract many grateful readers. --Barbara Mackoff

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      Award-winning journalist Stephanie Pierson has successfully helped her teenage daughter recover from an eating disorder. New York psychotherapist Phyllis Cohen has successfully treated body image issues of teenage girls for more than twenty-five years. The result of their collaboration is a groundbreaking, much-needed resource for mothers who are trying to help their daughters navigate the difficult years of adolescence.

      Smart, straightforward, and accessible, You Have to Say I'm Pretty, You're My Mother is the first book to combine insightful thinking and hard-won wisdom with practical advice and clear answers on everything from issues as complex as the difference between disordered eating and eating disorders to those as topical as body piercing and promiscuity.

      Teenage girls present their mothers with a unique set of challenges, especially where the issue of body image is concerned. The passage from childhood to adulthood is fraught with real perils for girls coming of age today; they are constantly bombarded with messages that no matter how they look, they are always falling short of some unrealistic physical ideal. In addition, they are told that they have to grow up emotionally and sexually, and do it fast. Just when a girl needs her mother's guidance the most, she is trying to separate from her mother and establish her own identity. So an innocent comment like "Isn't that skirt a little short?" can result in a storm of tears and slammed doors, effectively breaking off any communication and leaving both feeling equally alone and misunderstood.

      In You Have to Say I'm Pretty, You're My Mother, Pierson and Cohen give you guidance, perspective, and hope. They'll show you how to listen to your daughter, and decode what she is really asking when she says, "Do I look particularly fat today?" They give you the real answers to the universal mother questions: "What do I do now?" and "What happened to the little girl who loved me?" They explain why every slammed door will eventually open and how to build a closer relationship.

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      5 out of 5 stars Wonderful resource for parents of daughters.......2003-11-20

      Having once been a teenage girl, and now the mother of a little girl, I know that daughters strive deeply for their parents' approval. Everything a parent says to their daughter will affect her in one way or another. The book, "You Don't Have to Say I'm Pretty, You're My Mother," by Stephanie Pierson and Phyllis Cohen, CSW, describes for both parents how their responses directly affect their daughter's self and body image.

      Some may think that the mother is the only one who has the job of making sure her daughter feels good about who she is and how she looks. After reading this book you'll understand that the father shares this responsibility. Every action, every reaction, and every spoken word parents say to their daughter, makes her who she is. Daughters seek approval from both parents, not just their mother.

      Readers will learn what to say, what not to say, and how to say it. In addition, the books lists and discusses the potential problems that could arise during a daughter's teenage years.

      MyParenTime.com highly recommends this book -- it's an easy way for parents to learn how to help their daughters develop a positive self and body image. What a wonderful resource for parents of daughters!

      5 out of 5 stars Possibly more valuable for fathers than mothers.......2003-09-13

      I recommend this book to any parent who has a teenage daughter. It's especially valuable to me as a father because it gives me the viewpoint of the mother and presents the side of the daughter. If you have a close relationship to a teenage girl and aren't one, don't pass up this book.

      5 out of 5 stars Must read for Moms.......2003-04-29

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      ASIN: 1932664513

      Book Description

      A romance novel told in twelve individual vignettes, Twelve Reasons explores the relationship of young couple Gwen and Evan, and the ups and downs of their relationship. Crafted by Jamie S. Rich and Joelle Jones, this beautiful and lyrical work is a unique experience in graphic storytelling.

      Customer Reviews:

      5 out of 5 stars A Slow Burn .......2007-05-29

      I decided to pick up this title after hearing it on Indie Spinner Rack's "Best of 2006", (Indie Spinner Rack is a free podcast about inependent comics). My expectations were high and anticipation grew as I tracked by widget I grew ecstatic as I saw my package delivered to my door. I raced home after work and tore my package open and read it Jamie Rich's new graphic novel with aplomb only to be disappointed.

      After getting to the end I was disappointed feeling disjointed I put it down.

      I decided to begin again and try over. Let me tell you, I was not disappointed. "Twelve Reasons I Love Her" is a fantastic graphic novel, with deep characterizations, you can see why the main character falls in love. And like any great art, it helps you understand the world within you.

      5 out of 5 stars Beautiful.......2007-01-10

      Another great Original Graphic Novel from ONI: I ordered this book after a full chapter was previewed on several comic books sites and I don't regret it.
      Each of the 12 chapters of the book cover an important scene in the relationship between the two main characters. The realistic dialogs written by Jamie Rich and the emotions carried by Joelle Jones' art make all of these scenes special.
      An excellent book for people who like to "piece of life" stories.

      5 out of 5 stars Reasoning.......2006-10-24

      Tear tracks are still staining my stupid face as I write this review. If you start reading this book, you will likely read it in one sitting. While I was still in the malaise and intoxication of emotion, this question came to my mind: How do I write a review to encourage others to read this book?

      Universality - 5 out of 5 stars
      Recommendability to a friend - 5 out of 5 stars
      Creativity - 5 out of 5 stars
      Unformulaicness - 5 out of 5 stars
      Visual beauty - 5 out of 5 stars
      Insightfulness - 5 out of 5 stars

      I scan through several hundred comics every month in Previews, trying to decide what to buy. This cover & title jumped out at me. While I am not a regular reader of this graphic novel genre, this design was compelling, and I ordered the book. I am writing this review with one hand behind my back, because as you will understand after reading the book, I can't really review it completely without giving away the plot flow and conclusion. It would kind of be like trying to write a review about "The 6th Sense" without commenting on the fact that Bruce Willis is dead throughout most of the movie (You have seen The 6th Sense? Right? Please tell me I didn't just ruin that for you.) How do you review a book like this without disarming the artist's intended effect? Since it is a new book, I don't want to spoil anything for anyone. I apologize for the mystery. So instead of a normal review, I will just mention a couple responsive thoughts that came to mind after reading the book.

      The book reveals issues that arise when a person chooses that one special person to spend the rest of their life with.

      Love is sometimes an emotional and intellectual drive that inspires us beyond our initial ideas and boundaries in search of ways to create long term healthy rapport with others. Self-selected morals and boundaries that disable that drive tend to limit our ability to experience, recognize, maintain, and grow love that is often near to us.
      From McCoy, With Love: The P.I. Who Loved Her\For Her Eyes Only (Signature Select)
      Average customer rating: 5 out of 5 stars
      • Originally Posted on Romance Junkies in 2005
      • great price for two great books
      From McCoy, With Love: The P.I. Who Loved Her\For Her Eyes Only (Signature Select)
      Tori Carrington
      Manufacturer: Harlequin
      ProductGroup: Book
      Binding: Mass Market Paperback

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      ASIN: 0373217587

      Book Description

      The P.I. Who Loved Her
      Seven years ago, private investigator Mitch McCoy was getting married-only his bride forgot to show up. He never dreamed he'd see Liz again. . .until she breezed into town, wearing another wedding dress! Unfortunately for him, Mitch still wanted her-badly. But could he convince her to give him the wedding night he'd never had? Or would Liz's latest groom track her down first?

      For Her Eyes Only
      Immigration agent Jake McCoy prided himself on being a loner. So how had illegal alien Michelle Lambert stolen her way into his heart-and his bed-so quickly? The gorgeous Frenchwoman was searching for her young daughter and refused to go home without her. So, torn between desire and duty, what else could Jake do but marry her?

      Customer Reviews:

      5 out of 5 stars Originally Posted on Romance Junkies in 2005.......2007-05-14

      With FROM MCCOY, WITH LOVE, we get a double dose of the McCoy brothers-and boy, oh boy, what a dose it is! Could there be a better set of brothers than the McCoy's? I think not, and the fact that there are several of them just makes the pie even sweeter.

      In THE P.I. WHO LOVED HER, we get the exciting and ever sexy story of Mitch McCoy, a man who loves everything except weddings. Seeing his older brother, Marc, fall in love and marry the love of his life, Melanie, was great. He's happy for his brother, really he is. The fact that watching the nuptials brought back memories of his own failed marriage attempt-the one where the bride forgot to show up-shouldn't be a reason to begrudge his brother's happiness, and Mitch doesn't. Really. It's just that all the talk of happily-ever-afters is starting to drive him nuts. It's bringing back too many memories of Liz Braden and the wedding that wasn't.


      On his way home, grateful to be released from watching the bride and groom's happiness unfold before him, Mitch sees a woman stranded on the side of the road. A woman who, amazingly enough, looks a lot like Liz. Sure that he's imagining things and only indulging in a little wishful thinking, he stops to aid the woman-who, incidentally, is wearing a bloodstained wedding dress. Imagine his surprise, and distinct feeling of getting a great big dose of bad luck, when the woman turns out to actually be Liz, who also just so happens to have jilted another groom.

      THE P.I. WHO LOVED HER is sexy, entertaining, and a wonderful treat. As Mitch becomes involved in solving the mystery of why Liz left another man at the altar, what the blood on her wedding dress means, and how he can get her back into his bed without letting her into his heart, readers are right there for the ride. Believe me, this isn't one you'll want to miss.

      Next comes FOR HER EYES ONLY, featuring middle McCoy brother Jake. An agent for the Immigration and Naturalization Service, Jake is a man who is used to following a strict set of rules. Illegal aliens are to be handled in a very specific way, with no room for personal interpretation. His rule book gets flung to the wayside, however, when he meets Michelle Lambert-a hot and sexy woman who is in a world of trouble.

      Michelle is facing illegal alien status. Her purse has been stolen. And her daughter is missing, most definitely kidnapped by her estranged husband. With no one else to turn to, Michelle puts her trust in Jake, a man sworn to uphold the law. Michelle knows that their attraction is something she's been looking for her entire life, but the fact that she and Jake are now in trouble with the law makes her uneasy. Can she really drag Jake, and his entire family, into the very personal battle of rescuing her daughter outside the confines of INS rules and regulations?

      FOR HER EYES ONLY is another wonderful trip into the McCoy family, with realistic characters who will have you laughing and crying as they try to overcome some very big obstacles.

      Tori Carrington is a master at writing emotional romances that pull you in from page one. You don't want to miss the other books in this series-License To Thrill (The Magnificent Mccoy Men) (Harlequin Temptation, 740), featuring Marc McCoy, You Only Love Once (The Magnificent Mccoy Men) (Harlequin Temptation, No 823), starring David McCoy, Never Say Never Again (The Magnificent Mccoy Men) (Temptation, 837), centering around Connor McCoy, and A Real McCoy (Signature Select), with Kathryn Buckingham McCoy taking center stage.

      5 out of 5 stars great price for two great books.......2005-07-03

      Tori Carrington is one of the hottest writers in series romance today, and has just branched out in to Mainstream Fiction with Sofie Metropolis, a delightful first person story, full of humor for Tor/Forge publishing. But I really think it's with their McCoy series they continually give you stories with such family heart. If you haven't caught the series, here is your chance to get two full novels of McCoy sagas for the low price of one! A bargain any day!

      The McCoys are sexy lads who are alpha males and all walk the path of law enforcement in various venues. In the first book - The P.I. Who Loved Her - you get Mitch McCoy's story. Mitch is a private eye. He loved Liz and seven years ago they planned to marry. Only on their wedding day, Liz never showed up. Mitch is coming home from his brother's wedding late at night, so naturally thoughts go back to his `almost' wedding. When he sees a bride along side a broken down car, he thinks he spies Liz's face. He laughs. But sure enough, it's Liz! This time she is running from another marriage. Wearing yet another wedding dress she is on the run from groom number two and comes back home. Mitch is attracted to her but can he trust a woman who always leaves at the last moment.

      The second book in this double-feature - For Her Eyes Only - is Jake McCoy's tale. He works for Immigration. A loner, he is content with his solitary life until illegal alien Michelle Lambert comes into it. The stunning Frenchwoman is on a search for her young daughter. Despite Jake's insistence, she digs her heels in and vows not to go home without her child. Being an honest lad, he marries the lass so she can stay in the USA legally¯and in his bed!

      Great price for seriously great reads!
      I Feel a Little Jumpy Around You : A Book of Her Poems & His Poems Collected in Pairs
      Average customer rating: 3 out of 5 stars
      • This is a lousy book!
      • Poems,...
      • I feel A Little Jumpy Around You (poetry)
      • These poems are not from France!
      I Feel a Little Jumpy Around You : A Book of Her Poems & His Poems Collected in Pairs
      Naomi Shihab Nye , and Paul B. Janeczko
      Manufacturer: Simon & Schuster Children's Publishing
      ProductGroup: Book
      Binding: Hardcover

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      ASIN: 0689805187

      Amazon.com

      For this fascinating anthology of modern poetry, the editors grouped 196 poems into pairs, to demonstrate the different ways in which male and female poets see the same topics. Surprisingly, wonderfully, the end result shows as many similarities as differences. Even readers who normally don't like poetry may be intrigued by the thoughtful, accessible gems in this diverse collection. In a pointer review, Kirkus wrote "this is a wonder"; in a starred review, School Library Journal called it "a rich source for thought and discussion."

      Book Description

      In this award-winning anthology, the editors grouped almost 200 poems into pairs to demonstrate the different ways in which male and female poets see the same topics. How women see men, how boys see girls, and how we all see the world -- often in very different ways, but suprisingly, wonderfully, sometimes very much the same.

      Customer Reviews:

      1 out of 5 stars This is a lousy book!.......2002-04-19

      I like poetry, but the poems in this book are all written in the same style. There is no creativity shown, and no real variation. I have yet to find a person who liked this book. "Jump city", the poem from which the title was drawn, is the second worst poem I have ever read.

      1 out of 5 stars Poems,..........2002-04-11

      I suppose the reason I really didn't like this book was because I am not a fan of peotry. I prefer fiction novels, mysteries, adventures, etc. I did however appreciate the whole background of why the book was put together.

      4 out of 5 stars I feel A Little Jumpy Around You (poetry).......2000-10-31

      I enjoyed this books unique theme of giving two sides on the same topic. There is a male and a female speaker in a poem inspired about the same thing. The most interesting part of the book was to see how two people can thing of things in such a different way. At times when I couldn't identify with one, I could identify with the other. The great thing was when I could understand both and think, hey that is a great way to look at it. I felt that this book really caused me to open my mind and not to expect things so much. I also like the great emotions that were pulled out of me while reading the book. There were topics such as death, fathers, hospitals, relaxation, childhood, beliefs, common day existance, and objects commonly thought of as irrevelent. The fact the the book is made up of poetry also gave it chances to be open and the reader to find their own meanings. I felt that I could understand this poetry and that it is current. It was published in 1996, that is probally why. The poems also flow smoothly in general and have come sort of conclusive meaning. Other poetry is harder for me to read because it is too whimsical and I guess and comtemplate the meaning too much and never figure it out. The two views on the same subject seems to set this book apart from others. I think that it is great that it gives two ways for a person to look at something. When I write, I write as a matter of factly and a this is the only way solution. I enjoyed the legnth of the poems in this book because they were catchy and descriptive, yet not overbearing. One of my favorite poems in there is titled Conversation With A Fireman From Brooklyn. It envoked so many emotions from me. A part in it says, "Already he's telling me he dosen't mind women firefighters, but what/they look like after fighting a fire, well/they loose all respect." The male speaker goes on to act as if the only thing good about a women is how they look with a stay in the kitchen attitude. As a female I was disturbed by it. There are also great looks back at childhood. In the poem Dark Song a great part says, "Don't be scared of the dark:/ all night is the biggest shadow/ little kid in the biggest shadow. The book also includes interesting titles that made we wonder and keep reading. Such titles are Black Patent Leather Shoes, The Locker Room, and The Pyramid of Khufu. The whole idea behind the book I feel A little Jumpy Around You is a great example to readers and writers everywhere. Again, I would like to stress how much I enjoyed the different speakers in the poems, the giving of more than one view on the same subject, messages that are clear to understand, but you can interpert them in your own way, creative similies and metaphors that even youth can pick up on, modern subject matter, and poems that are a nice legnth to keep me motivated. The only dissappointment was that all the poems seemed to include a few choppy lines and I feel that there should have been different rhythms and structures used.

      5 out of 5 stars These poems are not from France!.......1998-05-01

      Collected in PAIRS -- that is, two at a time, this collection looks at the world through male and female eyes. It delights not just with the usual anthologist's skill of finding wonderful poems for us to read, but with the collaborative skill of two people who care deeply about quality verse for young adults. A marvelous collection.
      Good-Bye, I Love You: The True Story of a Wife, Her Homosexual Husband-And a Love Honored for Time and All Eternity
      Average customer rating: Not rated
        Good-Bye, I Love You: The True Story of a Wife, Her Homosexual Husband-And a Love Honored for Time and All Eternity
        Carol Lynn Pearson
        Manufacturer: Isis Large Print Books
        ProductGroup: Book
        Binding: Hardcover
        ASIN: 1557360553

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