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Parents of teen daughters listen up: according to Dr. Jill Murray, more than one in three girls will be involved in an abusive relationship. But I Love Him gets to the heart of this scary topic as painlessly as possible. With so much focus on physical concerns these days, it's not often that such emotional issues are confronted early enough to prevent them from becoming physical as well. Murray's constant theme is "love is a behavior", and in her book she shows not only what some destructive patterns are, but how even young teens can break free. Murray is a counselor and a parent, and she uses many real-life examples throughout the book; while many end positively, the few that don't are impossible to forget. When differences between emotional, sexual, and physical abuse are explained, you'll read stories like "My boyfriend used to shove me around and I'd cry. He'd say to me, 'stop being so dramatic. It's not like I hit you or anything.'" That's sad enough coming from an adult; when you see that this girl was only 14, it's even worse.
Happily, much time is devoted to healing, and many clear-cut methods are laid out--this is not a problem likely to "just go away," and Murray emphasizes that this is the time when girls need their parents most deeply. Every parent in this situation is bound to ask why it is happening, and chapters concerning early patterns and family stress are dealt with in a fairly delicate manner--you won't find blame here, just a request to examine your own relationships honestly. Anyone who lives or works with teens is likely to benefit from learning about the issues addressed here; certainly this is not a book to be lightly dismissed. --Jill Lightner
Book Description
One in three girls will be in a controlling, abusive dating relationship before she graduates from high school – from verbal or emotional abuse to sexual abuse or physical battering. Is your daughter in danger?
Dr. Jill Murray speaks on the topic of dating violence at high schools around the country, reaching more than 10,000 students, teachers, and counsellors each year. In every school she visits, she is approached by teenage girls in miserable relationships who, when confronted with the option of breaking up with the boy, exclaim, "But I love him!"
Many young women – and their parents, aren't even aware of the indications of a potentially abusive relationship. What's most alarming is that these warning signs are also some of the behaviours that girls find most flattering:
A boy pages and calls a girl often – but as a form of control, not affection.
He wants to spend all his time with her, but eventually won't allow her to spend time with her friends.
He says "I love you" very early in the relationship.
These behaviours can escalate into blaming, isolating, manipulating, threatening, humiliation, and sexual and physical abuse.
In But I Love Him, Dr. Murray identifies these controlling, abusive patterns of behaviour and helps you get your daughter out of the relationship without alienating her. You will learn what draws her to this type of relationship, why she has a hard time talking to you about it, the special barriers teens face when breaking off a relationship, and what's going on in the mind of a teen abuser. Dr. Murray will help you show your teen what a respectful relationship looks like, and teach her the importance of respecting herself. edition.
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First Time A Victim, Second Time You Volunteered.......2003-05-05
Before I tell people who I meet that my life mission is to guide women and girls to earn trust in themselves, I often have the privilege of being asked relationship or mother/daughter questions by girls between the ages of 14 and 21.
With the comments that I've heard, lately, I feel compelled to review this excellent book, in hopes that those whom I haven't spoken to find something in both this review, and in Dr. Murray's book, to guide them to earn trust in themselves.
To earn trust in themselves does require you to accept the reality of now, and to admit what you may have up to now not admitted (If you have trouble doing this, this admission is a great beginning).
Let's start with what makes abusive relationships different from teen girls, versus women who are much older.
With teen girls the priorities are:
1. Peer approval (this is usually about image, not reality)
2. Gender-role expectations (some girls are taught that
having a boyfriend is analogous to being lovable)
3. Lack of experience (as a teen, you are trying to work out a
life that hasn't been lived)
4. Little contact with adult resources (with mother's feeling
threatened by their daughter's youth, many daughters have
difficulty finding role models)
5. Less access to societal resources (most require parental
involvement)
6. Less access to the legal leverage (the laws assume that the
daughter doesn't need this support)
7. She fantasizes about who he could be, with her help
(See, "The Princess Who Believes in Fairy Tales")
8. Once in the relationship, she decides that she can't get
out of it, even if she wanted to (See, "My Mother/Myself)
9. She doesn't know that both of them are willing participants
in the struggle to be with someone, while avoiding their
fear of recreating their past dramas (See, "Narcissim")
10. Unspoken social pressure has taught her to avoid herself,
that is avoid being visible to other girls, by going out of
her way to make a guy her project (See, "101 Lies Men Tell
Women: And Why Women Believe Them")
For the older women, the challenge is:
1. Social pressure to prove that she is a woman, as defined by the "invisible woman out there"
2. Financial needs
3. Blaming her inadequacies (imagined or real
4. Her decision that her needs are too great
5. Domestic Violence professional's expect her to experience
this again, at least 7 times, before she will be free, or
dead
This is a wonder book, written for parents, but certainly good for young girls to also read.
What I did not see in this book is something that I have seen again and again from those who are abused is that in the moment that the abuser attacks the girl's worthiness, what she does is choke off her own breathing. This causes her to cut off her thoughts. This also causes her punish herself for the idea of her being angry at what he is doing to her.
For all the teen girls who think that his jealousy, possessiveness, manipulation, or attempts to isolate you from being close to others is cute, or loving you, I invite you to assert these 5 statements, with unwavering conviction,each time you experience his jealousy, possessivesness, manipulation, or attempts to isolate you:
1. I don't like what is happening to me.
2. There is something here that does violence to me.
3. I deserve better than this.
4. I can do something about this.
5. I will do something about this, now.
6. I will not allow this to happen to me, again.
Besides these statements, and reading this book, I invite teen girls and women to stop asking yourselves, "Why does he act this way?"
When you spend time asking questions about why he is treating you terribly, you make his problems into being your responsibility. And this means that you will be trapped into believing that you are inadequate, because you cannot control his self-concept. You can, however, influence the boy/man's behavior, by reading books like Dr. Murray's book, as you make the commitment to love yourself.
By reading a book like this one, and truly making the commitment to master the lessons in this book, you will make sure that less girls and women are abused, because when the lessons of this book become part of your core identity, you will recognize the signs of abuse; you will speak up for yourself, in the present moment; you will congruently tell the guy that his issues are not your issues; and you will show him that not every female is willing to pity his unwillingness to face his fear of his fears - and the world will change.
no advice.......2003-04-28
Although the book does a good job in describing an abusive teenage relationship, she gives almost no adivce to parents except those who are in abusive relationships themselves. I thought this book would have helpful ideas in how to deal with this situation when it comes into your family but all it does is insult the parent in the end.
Teens like it too.......2002-05-31
I bought this book for myself just to keep informed about teens' issues. My daughter, then 13, saw the book and began devouring it and analyzing her relationships. She made immediate changes in one friendship, deciding that she shouldn't put up with being hit or belittled anymore. Now, a year later, she is buying the book for a friend who accepts controlling behavior from her boyfriend.
Great Advise.......2002-03-20
What a wonderful book - it is so easy to fall into an abusive relationship. We need all the help we can get to protect our daugthers. Not only do we need to protect daugthers from abusive relationships, we also need to show and teach them how to love themselves. In Creating Extraordinary Joy, Chris Alexander show us how to love ourselves and others. - Thanks, Chris and Jim.
EXCELLENT WORDS OF WISDOM.......2002-03-02
As a counsellor in domestic violence and human behaviour, so often I have heard the words, "If only I had done (or not done) .... he would never have hit me," or "He only pushed me, but he loves me and promised he would never do it again." Abuse is not about love; it is about control, and without extensive therapy for emotional issues that cause the abuser to abuse (quite often the abuser was himself a victim of abuse), the problem is not going to get better, it is not going to go away - it will, in all probability, escalate to greater heights as time goes on.
The book points out many of the danger signals, and examines the various types of abuse: physical, verbal, emotional and sexual. The author also talks about the healing process for those who have been abused. When you stop to ponder the issue that one in three girls will be in a controlling, manipulative or abusive realtionship of some nature before they graduate from high school, it is enough to put both parents and teen-aged daughters on their guard. The aftermath of long-term abuse is devastating and horrendous beyond words; the emotional scars remain long after the physical wounds disappear. Quite often those scars never disappear and affect our self-image, our families and our future relationships. We have all heard that "love is blind" but there is also much truth to the statement that "there is none so blind as those who will not see." Denial is not always a wonderful thing. True love never physically hurts; it emotionally nurtures, heals and protects. As the reader will learn through the pages of this book, there are various kinds of love, but there is a huge difference between infatuation, addictive love and true lasting love. Teens, although they truly believe at the time they are madly "in love", are quite often in love with the idea of being in love. Being young, they have not yet had the opportunities or experiences to distinguish the difference between first love and overactive hormones, and mature and lasting love.
The author uses real-life examples to drive her point home; they are true stories that go on in some part of the country, every minute of every hour of every day. If this book helps only one young woman (and there are bound to be many more) then the author may not only have prevented a tragedy, but perhaps saved a human life. This is highly recommended reading material and worth a universe of stars! Hats off to Jill Murray for telling it like it is.
Book Description
Breaking up is hard to do - but sweet revenge can make all the difference!
With more than 35 million singles out there dating, hearts get broken every day. But today's woman needs more than a book of sappy affirmations to get her back on her feet and feeling great.
I Used to Miss Him... is full of sassy tips, sarcastic stories, and hilarious ways to heal after a breakup. This book provides genuine advice in a girlfriend-to-girlfriend tone, but with a "rip his head off" twist. By supporting a girl's right to be angry with her ex, this fun guide helps her rebuild her spunk and confidence after he's gone.
Features edgy advice on how to:
Cash in on his lifelong guilt
Look sexy and feel fabulous (then run into him at a party)
Make an ex-boyfriend voodoo doll
Lose the guy, keep the jewelry
Advertise being single
Stalk responsibly to keep him on his toes
Maximize post-breakup pampering
I Used to Miss Him... But My Aim Is Improving is the ultimate breakup survival guide for the sassy modern woman!
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Sassy?! Diva?! Give me a break!.......2007-04-18
This book attempts to teach a girl how to be a "diva" during the post break up period.
Question: "How is taping an envelope with a bug in it on your ex's door nob" a diva move?
Question: "How is jumping into rebound sex" with a stranger a diva move?
This book is very different from the idea presented in "It's called a break up because it's broken" and personally I agree with everything in that book says.
While "It's called a break up because it's broken" shows how to truely get over someone, this book merely shows you how to drown in your own anger and do stupid things that hurts both yourself and innocent others.
Fun and helpful.......2006-07-08
I loved how James wrote the book, making its readers feel as if they were getting advice from a girlfriend over martinis. In the sea of self-help books, this one takes a comical and fun approach to breaking up and moving on.
I didn't think it would help.......2006-04-07
but if you have or are going through a break up that cuts really deep, this book will really help ease some of the things you are feeling and help you feel a little more normal. I remember reading it a saying "holy crap, that is soooo true." Trust me it's just a little step that will help in a big way.
LOVED it!!.......2005-12-14
Over the past several years I have read multiple books on codependancy, relationships and addiction. (porn related)
This book was the the one which I related to the most.
We all have common sense and know when we should leave a relationship which is what you read by someone with a degree in the area. However we are all human and I truley believe unless you have been there, degree or not, you shouldn't be considered a "expert". This book is for the woman who is finally comming to her sences and needs the encouragement to move on and realize you are not the only "resentful(...)" out there. Worth the read!!
Affirming.......2005-12-13
This book is overall a gem with good suggestions for recovery and a lot of humor. It is probably a book for the college set but I am twenty-eight and really enjoyed it!
The best part about it is that it made me realize I'm not the only one who feels crazy during a breakup. I also felt like despite the obvious sarcastic bent to the book, it did have positive things to say about men. It is not a "let's be bitter forever" book. It's really all about having fun and feeling good about yourself.
I thought this passage was key: "Remember-though it is hard to get over someone you really care about, it is even harder to spend your life in an unfulfilling relationship." I keep reading that phrase over and over again and it has really changed my perspective on my breakup.
Book Description
Walker Percy (1916-1990), the reclusive southern author most famous for his 1961 novel The Moviegoer, lived most of his adult life in Covington, Louisiana. In the spirit of traditional southern storytelling, this biography of Percy takes its shape from candid interviews with his family, close friends, and acquaintances. Their voices—sometimes in agreement, sometimes not—reveal the ways Percy interacted with the people in his very deliberately chosen environment.
In thirteen interviews, we get to know Percy through his lifelong friend Shelby Foote, his brothers LeRoy and Phin Percy, his former priest, his housekeeper, and former teachers, among others, all in their own words. Over the course of the interviews, readers learn intimate details of Percy's writing process; his interaction with community members of different ethnic, religious, and socioeconomic backgrounds; and his commitment to civil rights issues. Presenting Percy from a variety of vantage points, David Harwell provides new material to help us better understand Percy's existential questionings and offers a more comprehensive treatment of the writer's character than traditional biographies provide. What emerges is a multidimensional portrait of Percy as a man, a friend, and a family member.
Customer Reviews:
Walker Percy Remembered.......2007-08-14
Walker Percy best described by his brothers Phin and Roy, and Shelby Foote. In Walker's books there appears to be no influence by Shelby, and in Shelby's books there is not a hint of Walker, but these friends from childhood were always a part of each other's life. The person who knew Walker Percy the least appears to be the ex-priest, James Boulware and sadly, the person who knew him best, his wife Bunt, is not heard from. A marvelous little book...will make you want to read all of Walker Percy's books!
Unique windows into Walker Percy through his friends.......2007-05-15
Nicely packaged little treat for Walker Percy junkies, it can also serve as a fine introduction to the man. Harwell gives us an intelligent and well researched, but utterly unpretentious and accessible, set of interviews with some of Percy's closest associates. The reader is given insights from brothers of Percy, his priest, Shelby Foote, his teachers, housekeeper, New Orleans bookstore owner Rhoda Faust, and, most interesting of all if illusive, Rev. Will Campbell.
The picture that emerges is beautiful and complex. Percy is the committed Catholic convert, yet forever questioning. He is warm and social, yet private. Civil RIghts activist, but Vietnam War supporter to the end.
Takes its place alongside Ralph Wood as my favorite work on Percy.
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There is 'The Ugly One,' whose only solace comes when she is locked inside her own head. In 'Wanted: A Thug,' a teenager seeks advice on how to steal her best friend's bad-guy boyfriend. And then there's Erika, who only likes white boys. Sharon Flake takes readers through the minds of girls trying to define themselves while struggling to remain relevant to the boys in their lives. This is a complex, often humorous, always on-point exposition of black youth resolving to find self-worth . . . any way they know how.
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Boys, Girls and Hormones.......2007-06-19
We read this one a month ago. The title led us to believe this book was about teens relationship with God, which would've been a good subject to read about. But this was not about God. It was ten stories about teen relationships. We pretty much enjoyed reading them all. Our favorite was A Letter to My Daughter. We enjoyed this one the most because a father was writing to his daughter explaining to her what boys were all about and what their intentions were when dating or having a girlfriend. It's always good to hear it from a male perspective. This way, girls will have the inside scoop and know exactly what to lookout for.
On the negative side, we wished that some of the characters were of other ethnic groups instead of mostly urban African American. The story, "I Like White Boys" was good. We wanted to read more racially integrated stories. Sometimes it's difficult to read slang. We try to read books that doesn't have a lot of slang because it's not the standard in this society. We recognize that urban communities have citizens that uses slang and improper English, but we're trying to change all that by incorporating ourselves into this American society by speaking proper or standard English. It's not that we disapprove of urban books. No, not at all because we love the BLUFORD SERIES! It's just that we want to be able to articulate a sentence when we go on job interviews.
All in all, it was an okay read and we would recommend it to other teens.
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Excellent Reading.......2007-01-26
This book was excellent. We used this book for a discussion with a youth group. The young ladies enjoyed all the stories. They could relate to the young people in the stories. It gave them a picture of how girls see themselves and how boys and men around them view them. I enjoyed reading the book and I was excited to discuss it with them. I would encourage young and old to read this book.
it had it's good and bad moments...i'll agree.......2006-12-26
So i aint no good girl: ***** five stars, it was one of my favorites. I'm glad the book started with this story because it makes up for some of the crappier ones. I like how Ms. Flake portrays this girl as tough and scared at the same time. She doesn't let anyone talk her down, except Raheem, who abuses her and she feels that if she just "goes with the flow" she'll keep him.
Girl didn't i say i dont write no letters: ***** Five stars again. Excellent. i love how i can relate to devita about her liking Jaquel and gaining enough strength to tell him how she really feels, through letters.
The ugly one: **** four stars. it was OK i didn't understand the complete end, when she is dancing with the Jamaican dude, is he real? I would've liked it more if he was a real person.
Mookie in Love: **** four stars. It was OK as well. the story would've been better if it was in his perspective, not the cousins.
Don't be disrepecting me: *** Three stars. I didn't like it that much. Ms. Flake seemed to rush into the story and it didn't end well, at all.
I like White Boys: **** Fours stars. I liekd it, i could actually relate, but it would've been better if Erika picked Chet or Johnny or that guy with the blonde hair, i dont know. I don't think Ms. Flake ended the story well. Too much suspense i guess.
Jacob's rules: ***** Excellent story great narration. I liked Marimba a lot too.
I know a stupid boy when i see one: *** i did not like the story. i wont really get into it because there are too many things to talk about but i will say this. UNREALISTIC
Hunting for boys: ***** Great story. no comment. Too good for words.
wanted: a thug: ****\* four and a half. I liked this story. Great suspense. I wish Ms Flake could make a continuation of these..oh well *sigh*
Not a boy and letter to my daughter are good as well. Both *** three stars.
Who am I without him?.......2006-11-22
I enjoyed reading this book because it had to do with teenagers just like me and how they handle some problems. This book is a great way to show teeagers how teenagers hadle their problems. So if you read this book you will understand how teenagers handle some issues. And if you are a adult then you will see how us teenagers handle some problems that we get.
Excellent!.......2006-10-27
Sharon, you did an excellent job with these short stories. My favorite was "Hunting for Boys." This book is all about girls and they boys they like. It's about learning about relationships. It demonstrates puberty and hormones kicking in. It reminds me of the saying by Dolly Parton on confusion: "they don't know whether to scratch their watch or wind their behind." Moms and Dads, please get this book for your daughters. They will enjoy the stories and may even find themselves in some of them. Each story has a different premise but they all tie into the same plot--getting with a boy. It reminds me when I first started liking boys when I was in junior high. I definitely recommend this book for the average teenager. Well done, Sharon, and keep 'em coming.
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- Read this with the one you love....but!! Just Laugh & enjoy
- Made Me Thankful!
- Good Stuff!
- MUST READING for every about-to-be-married couple
- I Love Him, But
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From comparing notes with friends to conducting a survey that spread across the country, Merry Bloch Jones has been a collector of quirks and foibles - specifically the little, unexpected things men do that make their wives crazy. And what treasure she's found. Here, from hundreds of eager-to-share women (first names only, please), comes one juicy detail after the next, and a whimsically candid portrait of husbands in America. "He's CEO of his company. If anyone knew this, the stock would drop. He sleeps in his shorts, and every morning, when he takes them off to shower, he blows his nose in them and drops them on the bathroom floor."-Heather, Chicago, IL. "He used coupons to pay for our anniversary dinner."-Dolly, New York, NY. "He truly believes there's no such thing as a bad pun."-Eleanor, New Haven, CT. "Every night, settling in, he grunts. I lie there waiting for him to quiet down. He sighs a long sigh and groans the same predictable words every single night. "Oh, bed, bed, bed, bed, bed. Oh, bed, bed, bed, bed, bed. Oh, bed, bed, bed"-Ellen, Cleveland, OH. Move over Oprah, Cosmopolitan, Dr. Ruth. Forget clich,s about toilet seats and the TV remote. From over 200 frank (and heroic) married women this is the real thing.115,000 copies in print.
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Read this with the one you love....but!! Just Laugh & enjoy.......2004-03-20
My wife and I saw this little book while standing on line waiting for a cup of Coffee. We laughed and saw ourselves in this book written to review the frustrating things that men do. Funny book. Worth the money and worth having in your living room or waiting area/bathroom, whatever. We laughed so much at the things 'men' do in their lives. I am looking for the 'I love her...but.' This was a laugh every page. Enjoy this book like we did. I recommend that couples read this together for a laugh at how we are, sometimes we can reflect on these things to so maybe we can make some small improvements however we can.
Made Me Thankful!.......2003-10-11
Some of the anecdotes in this little book are so horrifying it made me very thankful for my husband and his little quirks. So, he eats cereal while looking over my shoulder (grr) but hey, what that in light of some of the neurotic things some husbands do (like follow one wife around like a puppy...) It really is "laugh out loud" material, but once in a while, I just shudder at the thought of some quirks...THANK YOU GOD FOR MY HUSBAND!!
Good Stuff!.......2000-10-25
When this book first came out, my mother and I were standing in a very busy Books-A-Million check out line. I grabbed it and sort of flipped through it, then started laughing so much she grabbed another copy. She insisted on buying this book, which I managed to keep in my room until I moved out and she caught me! :) I am not married but I find these anecdotes hilarious! Each one makes me laugh. It's one of those rare books you actually want to read over and over again and you never get sick of it! I only own about 3 of these books, sad to say. I don't dare show it to my boyfriend since he won't see the humor, but I highly recommend this to any female who HAS a sense of humor.
BUY IT! You will not regret it!!:)
MUST READING for every about-to-be-married couple.......2000-06-06
You must read this book and its companion, "I LOVE HER, BUT..." You'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll love it. (It's not great literature, hence only 4 stars, but it is great!) And ... you will know what you're getting into! (After being married 25 years, I can speak from some experience.) Share it with your married friends, share it with your parents, share it with your adult kids.
I Love Him, But.......1999-12-13
One of the funniest books that I have ever read! I just ordered one for every woman in my book club. It is a collection of very brief, hilarious descriptions of husbands from the women who know them best. What seperates this book from the typical battle of the sexes genre is that "I Love Him But" is devoid of the usual sarcasm and bitterness. The women quoted in this book have truly learned to love their husbands - peculiar traits and all. It is really sweet, and funny and helps you realize that a good sense of humor can make your marriage happy for a long, long time.
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Wouldn't it be nice if we were always gracious and at our best? If PMS didn't secretly stand for Psychotic Mood Swings? If the men in our lives could be better behaved? If life didn't brim with bad-hair days and broken dreams and baffling relationships? So, how do we cope? Can we learn to cry, laugh, and love without losing ourselves in the process? Can we seize the best and forgive the rest? Life is filled with bedlam and blessings; it is both blemished and beautiful. In the laugh-a-minute tradition of her best-seller, Just Hand Over the Chocolate, Linamen again mixes a potion that helps women find the inner strength to embrace it all.
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Take a little time for yourself!.......2004-12-28
You deserve a break and a laugh! Make a coffee, curl up on the couch and let this book take you. That feeling of elation and fellowship we feel when we have our girlfriend's over for tea is recreated with every page. A joy to read. A pleasure to retell. A side splitting giggle fest all your own! All that for under $10. It's very worth it.
Dealing with life.......2004-10-09
I thought that this was a good book about how to deal with the trials that life gives us, specifically issues that women deal with. She talks about dealing with moods, kids, things from the past, weight, etc.
I liked the suggestion of making lists. Having lists and a set of goals is very useful in trying to get over a hurdle in life. I also loved the letter that she wrote to her friend, who dealt with issues from her childhood. It was such a beautiful letter, not minimizing her pain but wanting to be helpful.
The only thing I didn't care about was the title. The title seemed to imply that this book was about marriage, yet, the book wasn't really about that at all.
But I did enjoy the book very much and would recommend it.
Absolutely worth your time and money.......2002-02-06
Ms. Linamen helps us women see we are all in this troublesome and beautiful world together. She very encouragingly and courageously shares her painful stories so we feel less alone.
We know life is tough. She acknowledges that while giving us encouragment and suggestions on making life more enjoyable. This book continues where "Hand Over the Chocolate and No One Will Get Hurt" left off.
Ms. Linamen discusses friendship, taking chances, speaking up, whining, secrets, grief, falling in love with our kids, being a loser, pain, scars and having fun!
Excellent book. I highly recommend it.
FUN AND INSPIRATIONAL READING.......2001-12-09
I read this book in 3 days because I couldn't put it down. This book was fun and inspirational. Karen offers NEW and PRACTICAL ways to deal with everyday ups and downs and how to overcome the extreme situations we all face now and then. After reading this book, I wanted to call Karen and go out for a "Girl's Night Out." !
FUN AND INSPIRATIONAL READING.......2001-12-09
I read this book in 3 days because I couldn't put it down. This book was fun and inspirational. Karen offers NEW and PRACTICAL ways to deal with everyday ups and downs and how to overcome the extreme situations we all face now and then. After reading this book, I wanted to call Karen and go out for a "Girl's Night Out." !
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"Past Lives are Often Responsible for the Failure or Success of a Relationship."
"But I Still Love Him" takes an inside look at relationships from the unique perspective of Internationally Respected Psychic Counselor, Andreah with acclaimed Artist and Life Skills Counselor, Nadine Dennis.
We have all experienced the heady euphoric feeling called Love, but what happens when these intense feelings go beyond common sense and reason?
Most of us at one time in our life will experience the memorable type of relationship that will rock us to the depths of our soul. We will either remember them for the joy they brought or for the pain they caused. In either case we often look back at ourselves and ask; "What was I thinking"?
These stories are based on actual true-life accounts from the Authors' files. Join us on a ride of self-discovery while we share these true-life Psychic accounts and learn how past lives can affect current relationships.
"But I Still Love Him", reveals the many elements of relationships that push us beyond the realms of rational behavior.
"The Soul Remembers What the Mind Forgets."
Customer Reviews:
The Best Advice.......2006-02-23
I think this book was the best. I loved the stories and found the stories the author selected to be very interesting. I'm sure she has heard almost everything in her career. The stories were not judgemental and let you draw your own conclusion. It was refreshing to not be told what is wrong with you and how you should fix it! The way the book is written gives you hope that there is a special person out there just for you. I love this book!
Great Read!.......2006-02-23
I saw Andreah on a local television program and purchased the book. I felt the stories were compelling and thought provoking. Sharing the lessons learned from the people in the book helped me through a difficult situation I was in. This is sage advice with some Psychic and Spiritual wisdom thrown in. These are the things your mother should have told you and you should have listened!
Waste of Money.......2006-02-01
I saw the author on our local TV station and thought that the book would have more reasons why people feel the way they do due to past life, etc. The book was mostly common sense that our mothers taught us. It was a complete waste of my money.
Book Description
Responding to God through worshipful discipleship. What is the best way and the best place to learn what it truly means to walk with God as a disciple? While worshiping God in his throne room.
Building on his compelling exploration of God’s character in the book, I Exalt You, O God, Jerry Bridges now equips you to respond in fresh, authentic ways to the God we come to know better through our personal worship.
I Will Follow You, O God focuses prayerfully on the four most fundamental aspects of discipleship:
• living all of life under God’s authority
• finding delight in genuine obedience
• continually experiencing God’s conscious presence
• truly depending on him for everything
I Will Follow You, O God also includes a generous scattering of helpful prayers that will guide your heart in reverent praise and thanksgiving. As a result, you’ll find your heart overflowing, your life recharged, and your spirit yearning to obey the God who loves you.
Customer Reviews:
A Woman Before & Of Her Time........2006-10-05
In 1880 England, Lillie Langstry was the belle of the ball. A noted painter of the time called her the most beautiful woman on earth, like Helen of Troy. Oscar Wilde called her wit and mind as her most formidable weapons on the social and political scene of that time. Coming from a moderate background as the daughter of an Anglican clergman and the young wife of Edward Langtry, she mastered the art of seduction and took London by storm. Being a married woman, she entered places off limits to a young girl in an age of opulence. She became its crowning splendor as she charmed everyone from the Prince of Wales, the Prime Minister of Great Britain, U. S. President Teddy Roosevelt, and other American notables.
The New York City she sailed across the ocean to capture had about two million inhabitants. The center of town was 23rd Street, but Manhattan was bustling with expansion, like West Knoxville and Farragut, with new buildings 8 to 10 stories high. After a lecture tour, her friend and mentor, Oscar Wilde, said: "America is a land of unmatched vitality and vulgarity, a people who care not at all about values other than their own, and who, when they make up their minds, love you or hate you with a frightening, passionate zeal." That can be said for downtown suburb of this town as it is being revitalized with a resurrection for greed and debauchery. She was met by an avalanche of reporters all questioning her about her intent for coming to America. She answered all their questions except one: "Have you seen the Prince of Wales lately?"
In America, her triumphs were no less spectular. On one ship, she struck up a relationship with Somerset Maugham. She told him that the writer Fred Gebhard was the most celebrated man in two hemispheres. When asked why she felt he was so famous, her simple declaration was "Because I loved him." He was just one in many. Her admirers gave her an inflated ego as she really was not even pretty. It was the personality she used in public which won the men over. When she asked Edward Langtry for a divorce, she was expecting her daughter by another man. Many consider Edward, Prince of Wales, as the father.
She turned to the stage after leaving her poor, alcoholic husband and left the baby in the care of a governess to raise her, while Lillie was having the time of her life. This biographical novel explores some of the scandals to which she was considered the main target. She was returning to form, even if it doesn't feel like it yet. For one thing, she decided she was going to find it easier than usual to make up with anyone you've fallen out with. Leave old anger behind you. Forgive and even if you don't quite forget, at least stop stewing. Good advice for the modern woman. Frivolous things won't bring the joy they once did, and they always cost more than they are worth, at least in terms of the value they bring your life. According to psychologists, having exceedingly high expectations of someone or something is the short cut to disappointment. And they're probably right. However, right now, you could use some higher expectations and even a dash of idealism. The higher you aim now, the higher you are likely to score (this goes in both your working and your personal life). Don't let other people's low standards affect you. If you sense that you can achieve something fabulous today, ignore anyone who disagrees with you and your plans, and at least have a jolly good go at it. Lillie Langtry was the precursor of the modern, strong woman who can do anything she sets her mind on and be acclaimed a success.
A fascinating book about a fascinating, scandalous woman.......1997-08-25
This story captured my attention as a Reader's Digest Condensed Book when I was just a kid. Lillie Langtry lived outside of the conventions that ruled her times and became a legend. "Because I loved Him" focuses on Lillie as a woman, with colourful anecdotes, a fastpaced narration and a great admiration for the subject. I came away feeling like I had known the multifaceted, fascinating Mrs. Langtry
Product Description
I Love Him Lord, But He's Not a Christian is the unmarried Christian woman's guide to deliverance from relationships with men who do not share their faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. Unmarried Christian women are encouraged to allow God to fill the missing pieces in their hearts as they journey toward the equally yoked relationship God ordained for them.
Customer Reviews:
Pray, women of God, and then move your feet.......2007-04-24
It's rare that self-help books will succinctly and effectively address the fundamental issues that cause relationship dysfunction. Usually, there are some glaring generalities that are based on societal assumptions, and no real empowering advice on how to navigate a sometimes intimidating environment. If not, you get a long diatribe full of theories and notions that any graduate-level psychology student will understand, but that no woman outside of academia can utilize.
Latasha Hines' book, I Love Him Lord, But He's Not a Christian, is a breath of fresh air. This simple, practical book based on biblical principles goes right to the heart of all relationship dysfunction. Her no-nonsense advice starts right at the beginning, with her tale of her own relationship snafu, and her contribution to its chaos. Her determination to make things work with a man who didn't value God as much as she did guaranteed the relationship's failure. Using the principles espoused by the Bible and modeled by Jesus, Hines was able to escape the toxic relationship. Her bold and unrelenting honesty set her apart as a writer who writes from testimony and not from theory, and that testimony qualifies her as an expert in this field.
Being a successful lawyer, Hines wanted to create a book that was suitable for the busy woman, so the book is compact enough to slide into a briefcase or a purse, yet chock full of valuable insights. Each chapter concisely addresses the many facets of relationship dysfunction; all confronting the mistaken belief that a relationship developed from a sense of need will be a lasting one. Then, she firmly (but gently) calls the reader to task with reminders of God's promises, all anchored in the reader's worthiness as a child of God, and guides the reader at the end of each chapter with a "Prayerful Application". Her simple, but powerful prose makes every page sing with the witness that a divinely-guided relationship is worth waiting for.
With chapter titles like, "How Did You Get to this Point?", "You Cannot Change Him, so Stop Trying," "You Are A Gift from God, Therefore You are not Yours to Give," and "Tell God How You Really Feel," she allows the reader to view a relationship in its entirety without the blinders of romantic idealism. Being unevenly yoked is not just about marriage, or a bad relationship, but it's about the uneven places in your spirit where you will not allow God to lead you. As another reader writes, "Your book has admonished me to remind and encourage my friends to keep God first and to be obedient even though the flesh is weak." Her most powerful chapters urge the woman to be completely honest with God, so that she can know truly the gifts a relationship with God will provide. Hines' book is about a rededication to spiritual integrity so that God can fully lead your life into freedom, joy and love.
I Love Him Lord, But He's Not A Christian is now in its second printing, and the expanded edition features more techniques for any woman to understand her value through communion with God. Hines wants to remind women and men to invest time in loving God first, then letting God love them by providing a divinely appointed mate. When you enter a relationship looking for completion, you rob yourself and your mate of a fulfilling communion with each other. She warns not to sow unto the flesh, which is not about just avoiding the urges of sexual satisfaction. She warns of the impatience of humanity's short-sightedness which impedes the work of God in our lives.
Hines closes the book with the scripture, "To obey is better than sacrifice." (1 Samuel 15:22)
The obedience she speaks of is to the love that God is aching to pour into your life. Your disobedience only means that you will sacrifice the hope of lasting joy and fulfillment. I say, take Hines' advice and be delivered from toxic relationships.
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