Rosalind Wiseman was gracious enough to give us a sneak peek at the advice found in her new book, and we're kind enough to share. So, if you've ever found yourself in any of the following situations, Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is the book for you:
Book Description
What happens to Queen Bees and Wannabes when they grow up?
Even the most well-adjusted moms and dads can experience peer pressure and conflicts with other adults that make them act like they’re back in seventh grade. In Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads, Rosalind Wiseman gives us the tools to handle difficult situations involving teachers and other parents with grace. Reassuring, funny, and unfailingly honest, Wiseman reveals:
• Why PTA meetings and Back-to-School nights tap into parents’ deepest insecurities
• How to recognize the archetypal moms and dads—from Caveman Dad to Hovercraft Mom
• How and when to step in and step out of your child’s conflicts with other children, parents, teachers, or coaches
• How to interpret the code phrases other parents use to avoid (or provoke) confrontation
• Why too many well-meaning dads sit on the sidelines, and how vital it is that they step up to the plate
• What to do and say when the playing field becomes an arena for people to bully and dominate other kids and adults
• How to have respectful yet honest conversations with other parents about sex and drugs when your values are in conflict
• How the way you handle parties, risky behavior, and academic performance affects your child
• How unspoken assumptions about race, religion, and other hot-button subjects sabotage parents’ ability to work together
Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is filled with the kind of true stories that made Wiseman’s New York Times bestselling book Queen Bees & Wannabes impossible to put down. There are tales of hardworking parents with whom any of us can identify, along with tales of outrageously bad parents—the kind we all have to reckon with. For instance, what do you do when parents donate a large sum of money to a school and their child is promptly transferred into the honors program–while your son with better grades doesn’t make the cut? What about the mother who helps her daughter compose poison-pen e-mails to yours? And what do you say to the parent-coach who screams at your child when the team is losing? Wiseman offers practical advice on avoiding the most common parenting “land mines” and useful scripts to help you navigate difficult but necessary conversations.
Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is essential reading for parents today. It offers us the tools to become wiser, more relaxed parents–and the inspiration to speak out, act according to our values, show humility, and set the kind of example that will make a real difference in our children’s lives.
Also available as a Random House AudioBook and as an eBook
Customer Reviews:
Uneven advice brings this book down.......2007-10-02
This book does contain some helpful information. I specifically appreciate the parts on decoding what others are saying and things you are to never say (like "I don't know what you're teaching your kids, but we teach ours to be polite"). I also really enjoyed the quotes from teachers, counselors, coaches and principals.
However, some of the suggestions for dealing with conflict boggle my mind. For instance, the author says if someone else schedules a birthday party on the same day as your child's party, you should call up the other parents, and suggest a joint party or give them the chance to "do the right thing," which is apparently for those parents to cancel/reschedule their child's party. I find this to be absurd, impractical, and potentially embarrassing to your child. First of all, if you are the one with the problem with the parties, you should reschedule your child's party. Why are you trying to make your problem their problem? Perhaps you could make a joint party work, but either that child wasn't invited to your child's party in the first place, or that child WAS invited but decided to have his own party. Either way, it doesn't bode well for a joint party. I think another suggestion was for the parents of both kids to send out a joint letter stating that they expect the kids to honor their first commitment to one of the parties. Again, I find this micromanaging and awkward.
There are other instances of this but I think you can get the idea. First she says don't micromanage your child's social life and then seems to suggest you do that very thing. There is helpful information here, just don't swallow everything without a little common sense.
Finding the Strength to Stand Up for Our Kids (and Stepkids).......2007-04-13
If you've ever tried to get involved in the PTA and wondered why you left feeling insecure about your abilities as a parent, winced at hearing a dad (or mom) comment loudly and negatively on the soccer abilities of 5-year-olds from the sidelines, or sat silently while the booster club is hijacked by a parent who's a bully, then you'll find much to appreciate in this book.
A never-ending series of power plays among parents - the dramas that all of us see every day - are dramatically affecting our children and their schools, playing fields, and life skill development. Wiseman spotlights parents who live out their own insecurities through their kids. They push their children to take a whirlwind of classes, load them up with extra-curricular activities, and fret that it's not enough to gain admittance to the Ivy League. So it goes one step further - to bullying school administrators, blackballing other kids, and swooping in to rescue our children from the lessons they desperately need to learn on their own.
It's no surprise to see her expertly slice and dice the undercurrents surrounding a Queen Bee Mom and her posse, as they turn a cold shoulder to the new parent stumbling into the book fair planning committee. Wiseman also wrote Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence, the landmark New York Times bestseller on relational aggression in girls.
Several personas - from Caveman Dad to Hovercraft Mom, flit through the pages. They're not labels per se - but tools that help us understand our own roles and behaviors.
There is no prissy-footing or tip-toeing around the big issues here. The book offers solid advice with scripts to help parents stand up and build a culture of civility and respect that helps all our children. She encourages parents to challenge the often aggressive, inappropriate, and plain over-the-top behavior exhibited by many parents today.
It's a field guide in handling uncomfortable conversations between parents and adults who care about children. For example, a dad overhears a couple of women calling his daughter a slut because of how she is dressed. For most parents - the options that immediately come to mind are to start a shouting match with the women, or to slink off in silence. In reality - the dad didn't like the way his daughter was dressed, and would like for her to dress differently - and was struggling in his relationship with her. Wiseman offers a scripted conversation to guide how the dad could approach these women, state what he overheard, and ask for the situation he'd like to see happen instead.
And the reader is not off the hook, either. Wiseman encourages all of us to reflect on our own behaviors and motivations, and consider how we can be part of a community that values its members, treats people with dignity, and supports our children. The conversational and warm tone make for easy reading. Although the book talks directly to parents, there is much of value here for stepparents, educators, and others who care about children and their well-being. As a former youth worker who endured more than a few parental barrages - I found much of comfort and value in this book. As a stepmom to three, I saw some of my own experiences and observations mirrored, picked up a boatload of helpful advice, and considered my own attitudes and behavior.
I met author Rosalind Wiseman during the National Book Festival in Washington, DC last year. I was impressed with her energy and commitment to helping us all build positive communities for our children. When she inscribed her autograph in my book, she added "Stay strong!" We all need to hear that.
Look out, queen bee moms/kingpin dads! We're on to you!.......2007-01-31
Again, Rosalind Wiseman is giving us moms, and women in general, the information necessary to go up against the queen bee moms and kingpin dads out there! And I laughed when reading one of the negative reviews, because I can guarantee you that the information in this book hit a nerve with that particular reviewer...buzzzzzzzzzzz. Thanks, Ms. Wiseman! Knowledge is power.
A must read for every parent.......2007-01-12
Although, I only have a four and a two year old. I know that the time will come when I have to handle certain situations that are described in her book. Like what to do when my daughter doesnt want to invite a girl to her party, or when my son thinks that he got a grade he didnt deserve. Although some of the situations wont happen to me, because I live in a small town, but I think that this book will help every involved parent that wants the best for their kids.
Good encouragement about standing up for yourself and your kids.......2006-12-25
The author gives good examples about how to confront another parent. The best part of the book for me was where she points out that apologies are important, and suggests how to ask for an apology and to give a sincere apology yourself.
Product Description
Parent as Coach is the indispensable guide for Parents, Teenagers, and Adults who care. Diana Haskins brings coaching and parenting together in a thought-provoking yet practical handbook that points the way toward more harmonious parent-teen relationships. Haskins' insights as a parent and personal coach reveal what young people want from adults and how adults can mentor the next generation. Her Seven Ways to Coach Your Teen speak directly to teens' most pressing needs and parents' greatest challenges.
Customer Reviews:
"Parent As Coach" is worth reading!.......2007-05-07
Raising teens is such a challenge! Diana Haskins book helps parents see their role as parents change from being a manager of a "child" to a coach of an "almost" adult. What a perspective! Her ideas are down to earth and doable for everyday parents--not a lot of jargon. Simple interactive techniques improve communication as parents spend the last few years of a child's "at home" life getting them ready for being on their own. Parents will be better people themselves as a result of practicing her ideas.
I Love this book!.......2004-07-08
If you want to be a #1 parent of a teenage adolescent-read this book! By applying the principles contained within this book, you are sure to become a #1 parent in teenagers' eyes. They are timeless techniques that really work! Yes, motivating teenagers to do what they are supposed to do is a challenge every parent must undergo. But books like this one make transfer the burden into a positive experience.
Another point about this book. I love the wonderful, practical examples that Diana gives you throughout the book. You get to see first hand of how others applied these timeless principles and how you can do the same. You will now have the tools to help your teenager go from "teenager" into a "mature young adult"
I think this book should be a mandatory reading for every parent on his or her child's 13th birthday. It's the best manual on how to parent a teenager that I have ever seen. Highly recommended.
Zev Saftlas, Author of Motivation That Works and founder of EmpoweringMessages.com
Good Work Mom.......2003-10-30
what we have accomplished is subtly reflected into my life everywhere I go.
Reviewer, Teddy Gardner, Portland, OR United States.......2001-03-26
Are you looking for some new tools to communicate with your children that make a difference? Then this is the book for you! As a mother of two, I have experienced the benefits of Diana Haskin's wisdom when it comes to connecting with children and approaching them with deep listening, respect, love and clear requests. Parent As Coach is personal, practical and offers sage advice for building a strong foundation with your beloved children, as well as all others near and dear to your heart.
Developing Creative Contributors.......2001-03-25
I have found the advice in Parent As Coach to be clear, well thought-out, and immediately transferable to my experience coaching teenagers and families. The sheer practicality of the PAC approach places it far above most other books on the topic, and I highly recommend it to parents, older siblings, and anyone who finds themselves in the position of coaching, counseling or teaching teenagers.
This book receives my hardiest endorsement as a practical guide for moving beyond limited thinking about teenagers and on to developing the consciousness that will allow teens to become creative contributors of a caring society.
Diana Haskins has written a useful guide for understanding and applying the concepts of how to coach anyone to the unique challenges faced by growing young adults. She begins this work by acknowledging the importance of creating a strong foundation for the relationship by: deepening the connection between adult and teen; strengthening the relationship through heartfelt, effective communications; and fostering a progressive learning dynamic between both parties by laying the groundwork for mutual respect.
From this perspective of honoring and respecting the wisdom inherent in each teen, Diana presents the keys to effective life coaching and addresses some of the most essential concerns teens and parents face today. She reinforces her message by using the language of coaching as a means to respect and nurture, rather than diminish or abandon, the many talents, gifts and insights every teen possesses, giving them the confidence and courage necessary to developing their own unique, and therefore worthwhile, manifestations as fully expressing human beings.
By sharing the principles of coaching in this book about coaching teens, Ms. Haskins has given everyone interested in understanding the heart of coaching, an easy to read, practical guide for learning and applying coaching skills to every relationship. I look forward to additional work by this author, in part because of her clear, well-conceived style of writing that turns sometimes-clinical theories of parenting into a very straightforward sequence of steps that can be practiced by anyone of any age to improve the quality of their relationships. It is this transference-capacity that makes Parent As Coach such a useful guide for all readers.
Parent As Coach is a book I am happy to recommend to my own clients, professional associates and family. I recommend it to you as well.
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Book Description
This meticulously researched and lavishly illustrated volume presents the story of the stagecoach line that opened the Grand Canyon to the world and made Flagstaff, Arizona the Gateway to the Grand Canyon. From 1892 until the close of the 1900 season, the coaches rolled out every summer for a seventy-mile trip that was taken by hundreds, who could scarcely believe what they saw at journey's end. In the 100 years since then, many of the old roads and landmarks have disappeared, only to be re-discovered by the Mangums. More than a history, this book is an exploration guide, with detailed maps and descriptions that guide readers by car, bike and foot along the famous old stagecoach routes and points of interest.
Customer Reviews:
All the World's a Stage.......2006-05-26
Towns and regions are fortunate if they have a local historian who devotes years to researching and writing their history. Northern Arizona is fortunate to have Richard and Sherry Mangum, who grew up here and have a strong personal interest in and enthusiasm for the region. In this book they've brought to light a fascinating part of Grand Canyon history that barely gets mentioned in other history books. This book is more than just a history of the stage coach line between Flagstaff and the Grand Canyon. It's a great history of Grand Canyon pioneers, the first whites to live at the canyon and open up tourism there. It includes lively characters like John Hance and Pete Berry and Ralph Cameron. Some readers may be surprised to find that the first tourist facilities at the canyon weren't at the current south rim village but at the Grandview area, where there were several hotels and other facilities. The stage coach line may have been brief in duration but it did intoduce the world to the Grand Canyon, bringing up famous writers like John Stoddard, Charles Lummis, and Harriet Monroe, whose reports helped shape public interest in and perceptions of the Grand Canyon. The stage line also turned John Hance into a legendary character. The stage line itself quickly became famous, showing up in Baedeker guide books. It's a bit surprising, then, that it should be thoroughly forgotten. The Mangums have brought this story back to life, digging into obscure sources and puzzling out the missing links in the story. They've also assembled a gallery of seldom-seen photos, such as one with John Hance and Thomas Moran and a donkey. The book offers a portrait of Flagstaff in the 1890s, and details the building of the stage road and the way-stations along the way. For today's explorers, the book offers detailed maps of the old stage route, much of which can be followed today. The book closes with two sections on early bicycling to the canyon, and the arrival of the automobile age. This is a unique and rich contribution to Grand Canyon history.
Book Description
Applies asset-based guidance to help sports coaches handle common challenges such as fights between players, lack of fan support, and raising the academic level of athletes.
Customer Reviews:
A motivational, upbeat resource and instructional.......2004-11-08
Hey, Coach! Positive Differences You Can Make for Young People in Sports is a solid treatment of concerns faced by coaches, participants, and parents involved in youth sports. From how to deal with parents ready to face off against referees, to preparations for a team game out of town, handling disputes between players or denigrations athletes make toward one another and more, Hey Coach! is a motivational, upbeat resource and instructional. Highly recommended especially for anyone looking to build team spirit in young people.
Customer Reviews:
what a mystery.......2006-03-21
This book is awsome! I think that teachers should read this book to there class! You always want to get to the end of the chapter because at the end of every chapter something scary or cool happens! You should read this book!
It's Worth Reading.......2003-09-06
While staying at a camp, Nancy is asked by an elderly woman to locate a stagecoach which had belonged to the woman's great-uncle. The stagecoach is supposed to a contain a clue to something which would be of great help to the town. This book was alright, it's not one of the best of the series, but it certainly isn't one of the worst. The mystery is okay and there is a reasonable amount of action. I wasn't glued to the book with every page, but it did manage to keep me more-or-less interested throughout. This isn't a book I'd highly recommend; although, it is worth reading.
where is the Stagecoach.......2002-10-23
The Clue in the Old Stagecoach
By Carolyn Keene
September 20,2002
In the book The Clue in the Old Stagecoach Nancy Drew is a detective. Nancy has gold hair and blue eyes. She is also tall and slender. Her best friend George also has gold hair but her eyes are brown unlike Nancy's George is tall and slender and has a personality just like Nancy. She loves adventure and likes to get things done and over with. Bess is way different from both girls. She has brown hair and green eyes. She is told to be short and stubby.. She is Goerge's cousin and has the same great trate of loving mysteries.
The book The Clue in the Old Stagecoach is an great mystery book. If you like mysteries you will enjoy this book. At the beginning of the book ,all of these girls are best friends and do everything together. One sunny day the three girls were climbing up a hill when they saw an old stagecoach rolling down the road. When they noticed that nothing was pushing or pulling it they started to chase after the old stagecoach. The girls were running after the stagecoach they ran into a truck driver. The truck driver was searching for an old stagecoach in the bushes behind tree's and on the side of everything. The girls told him that they had seen a stagecoach and it was probably the same one. By this time the stagecoach was far out of their sight. When they finally build up the courage to tell the lady that had just bought the coach they find out the coach had rolled its way to her house. When the carpenter she had hired came they replaced the carpet and you won't believe what they found.
My opinion on the book The Clue in the old Stagecoach is that the book isn't all that great at the beginning but near the end it all comes together. I would recommend this book to a mystery reader. I would recommend it to them because there are a bunch of mysteries going on at once. If you like reading mysteries and adventure than this is the book for you.
I think this is a great book.......1999-08-07
This book has many surprises in it. When you think that she has almost solved the mystery, she finds out that she is on the trail so starts over and reviews everything from the begining . Well I suggest that if you like mysterys, read the clue in the old stagecoach. Also read all the other Nancy Drew books.
Nancy Drew outdoes herself!.......1998-12-30
This was a great book! In my opinion it deserved 5 stars. Plenty of characters made it an absolute page-turner!
Book Description
Imagine You Could Afford The World's Best Coach For Your Child... Watch, listen to and feel what it is like as your child blossoms, discovers hidden talents and abilities, and develops an ever-deepening level of self-confidence. Notice how the coach is working. Marvel at the wonderful rapport coach and child share, how learning has become not only enjoyable, but also easier and faster. Well, imagine now you are that coach... Watch, listen to and feel what it is like as you work with your child, doing everything the coach did, and more! And, as you combine the deep love and respect you have for your child with the skills of the world's best coach notice any barriers to achievement simply melting away for both of you as new and exciting possibilities present themselves. Welcome to The Coaching Parent! You hold in your hands the key to becoming your child's personal, inspirational coach. This book provides all the tools and motivation you need to make the best use of the coaching opportunities that arise in your daily interactions with your child. Written for parents, step-parents, guardians, carers and grandparents this books presents you with proven techniques for relating to and helping the children in your care dramatically improve their life chances. Ideal for parents of children from pre-school to teenage years. Contains 45 'Coaching Flash Cards' to copy and use with your children.
Customer Reviews:
great real life application.......2006-07-06
I don't have any kids myself, but I found this book helpful as a martial arts instructor of young kids. The focus of this book was for parents with children at home, however, bringing these techniques into classes with kids in all ranges of minds and attitudes was helpful in not only them reaching potential and goals, but myself as well.
Inspirational!.......2006-06-28
A friend recommended this book to me and as a mother of three children who are all gifted, I was keen to try anything to help them reach their potential. Wow! This book was just what I was looking for. Thanks for the recommendation, and thanks for the great advice. Well worth the read.
One of the best books I've read on how to help your child navigate through life!.......2006-06-27
My mother in law brought this book home to me from one of her trips abroad. I found it very helpful and very practical. I am the mother of three children ages 20 months to 9 years. I find myself referring back to this book time and time again. The advise is clear and concise and very easy to put into play immediately at home. You won't be disappointed. My children have benefitted in countless ways from their Mom reading this book.
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